she seemed very misreble when she came,so me and another girl made friends with her. she comes to schoolevery few days with a hundred dollars.iknow she doesnt bring the same 100 dollars because most of the time she uses it the day she gets it,and i see the change.then a few days later she'll come with a new 100 dolar note.i noticed she has this ,what i thought was, unusual dark coloured birthmarks around her body.then i realised it was bruises.yesterday she asked me to help her to plan to run away from her house.i asked her why,and she said she couldnt stand her parents swearing at her and beating her.then i realised she had somemore new bruises on her face.she said her parents took away her mobilephone,so she showed me her 2 new 50 dolars,and she said thats what she will bring to run awy with.i heard that some of the teachers might know about this,but i'm not sure.i need to help her,but how?
2006-08-28 22:41:52 · 16 answers · asked by sarah 123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to go the principal of your school, and ask to have a meeting with the principal, the school counselor, and also with a teacher if there is one who you trust. You also need to talk to your parents about it, or another adult in your life outside of school. Ask this adult to come to the meeting, as well.
People who work in schools are required by law to report abuse when they see it. Some are afraid that if they suspect it and report it, but are wrong, they will be sued, so they keep their mouths shut. By having several adults there, you can minimize the chances of someone being afraid to report the problem. When you have your meeting with them, tell them that your friend wants to run away. Tell them about the bruises and the money. Tell them everything you have mentioned here. And most of all, tell them that if they don't call the police, you will.
You could call the police now, but the sad fact is that it will have more weight coming from an adult than it will coming from a young person. That means that your job is to make sure that responsible adults know about the problem, and then act on it. Keep at them until they report it. And make sure they report it to the police, or to child welfare services. Don't let them just call her parents in for a meeting, which will likely result in her being beaten some more, or being removed from school.
You are very brave, and a very good friend. Sometimes it is frustrating when you are young to know that someone is in trouble, but not be sure how to help, or even if you can help. Well, you can. Get with some adults you trust, and MAKE them do something about it. You have the information they need, and they have the authority to make something happen. Together, you can help your friend.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-28 22:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she came to you as a friend, and wants your help ok, all i can say is that you need to talk with her and maybe talk to a teacher at you school or someone you no who will do something about it, she does need help and needs to get out of there, some parents just should never be parents at all, i had a friend once that needed my help, so i took her in and told the parents that she would be fine, she was a lot younger then me but she to also had a few problems that were hard to deal with, just get her to open up to you, and when the times is right, you will know what to do then ok,ask her if you can go to her place, and just see for yourself what is really going on,i dont think her parents will hate you lol, but good luck, when someone tells you something it is a cry for help, be there for her, she needs a friend
2006-08-28 22:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please help this poor girl because i feel she is bieng abuseed by someone or u investigate by reporting to the police; make sure she does not know about it and tell the Police to do a secret investigation; but first of all tell one of your teachers; invite her for a Picnic or Dinner with another friend or your family so u can hear more from her; Tell your Parents about her too; Good Luck
2006-08-28 22:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by segsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to help your friend is guide her towards the proper authorities ie the school administrators or police. If the teachers already suspect abuse they are obligated by law to report the abuse to child protective services. Your friend may be upset with you for taking this action but it also seems like shes reaching out to you for help. Its your responsibility as a good person to report this.
2006-08-28 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by james b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you should do is report the matter to the school authorities. She may or may not be telling all that needs to be told. And you should not try to investigate things on your own as this could put you in trouble, especially if some parts of whatever she told you were not true.
2006-08-28 22:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get in touch with your school counselor right away- they have a legal obligation to report abuse. Good luck to your friend- make sure she has a way to contact you immediately if her situation gets too bad. Also tell your parents about it, that way if she needs help you won't have to explain to them what's going on- plus they might have some ideas, too.
2006-08-28 22:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the police or child protective services check it out. Tell authorities and find a trust worrthy adult to help you help her. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-08-28 22:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
watch it. she may or may not be being abused. best choice, tell the police what you know, have seen and have been told. tell them it may need to be investigated further. then just keep your eyes open when you are around her. see how she acts with her parents and around her parents. also see how her parents treat her firsthand. it could be real or it could be a scam to get attention.
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2016-11-06 00:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let her know you are there for her...... let her know she has someone to count on.....that makes ppl feel good
...oh and try to see where she could stay for a couple of days
or she can go visit ppl sleep over at there houses so your parents wont notice and later kill it
2006-08-28 22:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋