Miscarriage questions.?

Question

I have had a miscarriage before at 11 weeks..I am 7 weeks now. My friend was pregnant and was supposed to be 16 weeks but miscarried a month ago and only found out now...I am pretty discouraged by this because of the chances..I was bleeding a little about 2 weeks ago but when I went to the e.r. everything checked out fine..but why bleeding thn?? I still have all my symptoms..and I still feel pregnant..Would all my symptoms have went away if I did have a miscarriage and just haven't expelled the baby??? Just a little discouraged now..everything was going okay for her, and things were messed up for me..and she miscarried..so doesn't look to bright..... =(

I never said I was not a mom already. I have a 2 yr old son, so I know how to be a mom, I just had a lot of problems with that labour, and then a miscarriage....so I am a little scared...not scared of the responsibility.

Ohh..I just read some other very nice responses...thanks a million..just going through a tough time i guess..

Answer 1

I lost my first child then went on to have a healthy baby. Second child was twins not identical so separate eggs and i lost one of the babies at 7 weeks but the other baby was fine. With my third child I started to bleed in the first few weeks and went into panic mode and saw the doctor. Everything was fine and he is now 14. The best thing you can do is not panic and try not to stress. I say to people that in my case I ended up with three beautiful children. I had to go through a lot to get them and things may have been different if I hadn't had the miscarriages I had, but I wouldn't change anything as then I wouldn't have the kids I have now. Be calm, think positive !

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's frightening to know that it can happen without your even knowing it. I'm not feeling pregnant at 14 weeks and I'm scared about that very thing happening to me.

As for your bleeding, it is pretty normal to have some spotting between 5-7 weeks as some people get it when they may normally have had their period. As long as it's not really heavy and doesnt last for a long time and you've had it checked out by the doctor you should be ok.

I had bleeding at 7 weeks, got checked out at the dr. and was told everything was ok. At 10 weeks I had an ultrasound and saw the baby moving around in there so try not to worry, it sounds like everything is fine.

Answer 3

The reality is that about 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. Most before the woman even knows she is pregnant. In a diagnosed pregnancy, the most dangerous time is between 6 and 8 weeks, but it is still common before the 12th.

Now, just because you have had one miscarriage (or even 2 or 3) does not mean you are more likely to have another one. And just because bad things happen to other people, does not mean that they will happen to you.

Part of becoming a mother is learning how to manage worry. If you can't deal with this while pregnant, how are you going to deal with the child learning to walk and tripping, with going to school for the first time, with riding a bike and all the other dangerous things we do in life?

You are part of a big female system that populates the earth. Even though there is a lot of news about infertility and other problems, the fact is that reproduction usually works and even women with serious problems have babies. Your job is to assume everything is fine, take excellent care of yourself and to use this time to learn how to manage your emotions. Pregnancy is not just about having ababy, it's about becoming a mother and all the mental preparation that requires.

Good luck, congratulations and have a happy, healthy nine months.

Answer 4

I understand. I've been there. Just take care of your body and do your best to alleviate stress. Some women have spotting during completely healthy pregnancies. Everything checked out fine. When you've been through a m/c or have had friends go through one, it's normal (and reasonable) that you would be concerned. Keep you obstetrician on speed dial, if necessary, and let him/her answer all your questions.

Hang in there. I hope all goes well.

Answer 5

Slight bleeding early in pregnancy can be normal and is common. Too much worry isn't good. A majority of women miscarry and go on to have healthy pregnancies later. Just take care of yourself. Good luck.

Answer 6

I had exactly the same thing as you - but I bled from beginning to 28.5 weeks when I had my son.
There could be a number of reasons why you bled - stress, incompetent cervix, rubbish coming out of your body, etc..
Best thing is not to panic - or could make it all worse for you.
Dont focus on other peoples misfortunes, as there could be lots of reasons why she miscarried - just focus on yourself and taking care of your baby. When you have scans / drs / midwife appointments, make sure they know you bled and miscarried previously, and they will take better care of you and hopefully get you past the 35 week stage.
Good luck

Answer 7

I started to bleed when i was three months preg. I was having twins, they said it was because of sex, I was put on complete bed rest and NO sex. they checked the baby on the ultra sound and everything looked good thats when i found out I was having twins.