2006-08-28 22:35:02 · 11 answers · asked by simple73man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish I knew.
2006-08-28 22:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because at the begining of the relationship...and the marrraige itself both the man and the woman are putting up an act. Sometimes its more one or the other. They portray themselves as being what they think the other wants them to be...what they think the other person is more attracted to. This lasts for some time as the first years of marraige contunues. They call this the "honeymoon" phase. Then "reality" sets in...either with the addition of children or just time and the magic begins to fade. Why you ask....because then both the man and the woman start putting away the masks they had to attract each other. They start being themselves. They drop the act. Once this happens in most cases.....then the fireworks star, and i dont mean the good kind. In most casese this is when both the man and woman realize that they cant stand each other. That the very qualities that they used to love...drive them crazy.
And then....eventually they realize that they have no idea how they even thought the other person was attractive in the first place and stay in the marraige...because of the kids or some other reasons.
Moral of the story.....always be yourself.
2006-08-29 05:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know in my 16 yr marriage to my hubby things got boring but then we just started making things work for us. We started doing more things together such as going grocery shopping, running errands, family vacations,visiting w/ mutual friends (which theres only 1), renting movies and ordering out. Theres soooo many things that a couple can do to keep the marriage working. Just try to remember what it was that u both enjoyed before u married and try that. I was told once that there are 4 D's to make a marriage work ... 1) date weekly, 2) dialogue (talk) daily, 3) disappear monthly (spend the nite at a motel) and 4) divorce eventually. 4 should only be done when 1 - 3 dont work!! I dont recommend #4! best of luck!
2006-08-29 00:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by fierylegs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not know many happy couples and thats sad.I have six brothers and they are all over forty and they love their wives they seem to be good freinds.They must be happy because theyare always going on trips or camping .and you have to make you partner your freind because life isnt always instant gratification sometimes people we love irritate us or even bore us but marriage is about work.you gotta surprise each other and be flexible.Alot of people get lazy and stop taking care of themselves and that of course can make a marriage go south but if you love someone you have patience and just keep working on things.If all the fun goes out of marriage I would say its probly because you have not cultivated a freindship with your spouse.You love them but do you like them?Also sometimes you have to invest in your relationship to keep it alive.thats right get a babysitter go see the rolling stones and have a real date the money would be well invested.So many men will put money on the races or football put rims on the car but wont put money into a relationship with their wife cause they figure they got her why bother.thats a recipe for divorce
2006-08-28 23:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships take work on both partners end to make it fun. If the fun goes out, you have no one to blame but yourself. My kids make fun of my fiance & I b/c we giggle like little kids all the time. Not to say all is fun and games, but we strive to keep things on an even keel as well as schedule regular "no-kids allowed" kind of dates for more serious moments. If it comes to us just enduring eachother, we'd both leave in a blink of an eye.
2006-08-28 23:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not in all cases. am married for 4 years now n we have a child also... We still have fun as much as we want n we go out with the baby n have nice times often. U just have to learn to keep the trend n make ur partner happy for him/her to do same. The fun will remain if u want it to.. So, try it on..
2006-08-28 23:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the years, we learn the hard way that love is not a feeling, it is an effort, a decision, a commitment. we thought way back when we were teenagers that driving 2 hours to see our partner was love. All excited and bubbly. Love is actually when you DON'T want to drive 2 hours but do so. It is more than the feeling. Couples shouldn't forget that love is a decision that requires effort.
2006-08-28 23:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by arvie318 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is not an amusement park.....it is living with a woman/man that you love.....the fun can still be there, and great times had....but to think it is going to make life something that it is not....well, that is just stupid.....there will be fights, sad times, and times that are not "fun".....but if you truly love your spouse, then it will always be good
2006-08-28 22:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find out let me know. i have been enduring now for 13 years... hope you find out soon, Honestly though... think about why it is no fun ... then try to fix that problem , I have adressed my issue with my spouse and divorce is our only resolve.
2006-08-28 22:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to work at it to keep the fun in there
2006-08-31 22:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋