Does the sweetness last?

Question

I mean when it comes to relationships, bcuz you know at the start you´re both really sweet to eachother…does that disappear with time, or does that depend on how in love you are? Or does it all just depend on how you try hard to keep the “magic” alive? What actually makes the “magic” or sweetness fade in the first place?

Answer 1

I have learned that 99.9% of the time.. with men and women.. in the beginning of all relationships we all put on our best additudes / personality/ manners , ect.. to get the female/male .. if they are acting the same way after 6 months usually thats who they really are, although if u really take notice most people start changing as the months go by and u get more and more comfortable with each other.. for example.. if a guy opens up car doors for u in the beginning.. if he's still doing it after 6 months, then u can be pretty sure thats "who he actually is" and not just an act.. now once u live together, the same thing will occur, at first its fun and exciting "playing house" and usually after another 6 months u start seeing each others quirks and bad habbits.. once "comfortable" has set it.. sometimes they show up sooner, but usually by 6 months, the true them is showing through...

Answer 2

Jaded,
My experience is that over time the chase is over and all the talking of "I like that too" is pretty much to a minimum. So the ticket is did you pay attention? The sweetness is the romance you bring to the table and willing to share,the little things like favorite foods,caramel or hard candy. See it's the little things that keep the sweetness rolling in your heart. The physical part is the teasing and flirting through out the day or week. I guess if you have a degree of feelings or love the your significant other it will show by how thoughtful you are, how helpful you are and your willingness to sacrifice for there happiness. But it helps if it's a give and receive situation, ya know. Don't through away your likes for this person as that's how this person was attracted to you in the first place.
The fading , is a combination of many things,jealiousy,resentment,lack of trust,stress,money,kids,personalities change,likes and dislikes and the list goes on.People get bored,annoyed and irritated- all the little cute things turn into a pain in the *** over time sometimes.
There are so many layers to your questions, but to me that's about it in a nutshell.
ps-stay sexxy for your partner no matter what!

Answer 3

I think sweetness can last. Most people through time grow out of this phase. but the people who realize it is not a phase at all are the ones who continuously give commpliments and say swee things. Over time people take things for granted or think I've been with this person for x years she/he already knows I love them and they figure they don't have to say anything. I've only been married 7 months so the fire is still pretty hot. I just plan to add fuel whenever needed. I love being married...ok I know, this isn't about me....

Answer 4

It depends on how deep you are in a relationship. There should be ample communication between the two. I don't think sweetness fades with passing of time.

Answer 5

The "leveling off of hormones".

You just can't function the rest of your life smiling every time you think of your mate. You'd never get your work done. Relationships take work. . ..PERIOD!

Some need more work than others. If thing get stale. . change the scenery for a couple of days. . .even one night in hotel on the spur of the moment. A trip to a place you both have not seen. . .

35 years of marriage speaking here (to the same woman. . .well. . she's changed a bit over the years. . .but so have I).

Answer 6

Well, sometimes. But then at some point during the relationship you both realise how much you love eachother and then you start being sweet to each other again.

Answer 7

when u start taking each other for granted, and yes u will do that. u will not mean it, or even realize u r doing it.
we often take the ones we love for granted the most.
don't forget to let them know u appreciate them even when they do some little thing. that doesn't mean only the things that directly effect u, but the things that in the long run help the relationship.
examlpe: i used to always fill her car with gas when it was cold out, and i would go start the car so it would be warm for her. i would take the kids to school so she could stay in bed on her days off.
the little things we do get over looked.

Answer 8

You get used to each other. But a lot of the time the sweetness decreases but if both are actively in love and considerate, then it stays pretty much the same.

Answer 9

Communication is the answer. If both of you always talk, exchanging stories, the sweetness will always be there. Add some teasing and jokess, it will really make sweeter.

Answer 10

it all fades as you get to know each other over the years and you don't try so hard to impress each other... then it is replaced by something better - or it all fades to nothing...