I've been in relationships where it lasts 2 years all the time. It's always great in the beginning but as time passes by you see the real person. Some people know from the beginning that the person they are with is "THE ONE". Can you really be sure in the beginning of the relationship? I don't trust a person very easily. It takes a lot of actions for me to even consider. I'm in a 4 month relationship with a guy and so far we haven't had a big fight. Sometimes I wonder if he's the one but he's different nationality plus I'm short and his very tall. I like his personality but I still don't know coz' it's too soon to tell. He mentions marriage to me early in the relationship. Which I thought was kind of weird because we've only been together for a month. Do you think he can be trusted?
2006-08-28 21:05:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am just curious, how old are you? If you are say in your early 20's then why are you so worried if you have met "THE ONE", but thats not important. =)
Here is what I think, I used to think like you, I was with my ex for 3 years, and we never fought once, i thought he was "THE ONE", but due to work reason, I had to move to another country for 6 months, and you would think that him being my boyfriend of 3 years (and we were engaged), he would be supportive about me moving to another country for my career, but he thought he was being given the bad end of the stick, he thought himself as being in the bottom of my list. So we had a break, I moved to another country for my career, while I think about the relationship, and I realise the cause for us not fighting was because we didn't really communicate that well, and it would lead to a lot of major issues in the relationship.
So I guess you need to ask yourself, do you guys not fight much because you don't communicate properly or because you guys are compromising. If you guys are compromising, then it is a good thing, which shows the two of you are willing to give in so no major damages would be done to the relationship.
And sweetheart, don't worry if you have met "THE ONE", just enjoy your time with him and make the most of it =) Also, it doesn't matter if you guys are of different nationality, me and my boyfriend are different nationalities and we are prefectly fine, and he is like my closest friend, I can just tell him anything and everything, communication is a big thing in maintaining a relationship.
And if you guys really want the same thing, you will work for it, and things will be fine =)
Good luck =)
2006-08-28 21:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by devviash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck to you dear. One must be sure. Differernt nationality ! Are u sure he's not after a green card. Been seeing a lot of that on the net lately, u know wanting to marry just to get a green card. Has he introduced you to his parents ? Some of these foreigners are really good others may have a wife tucked up in their native village. They come from different backgrounds so adjusting after marriage could be a problem. For example Indian boys are a pampered lot in India. They do not help around the house, they do not cook..... He may not do any of the things that you think come naturally in a marriage.You see the true person only after marriage until then one is at their best behaviour, this is true for both men and women. One puts their guard down when you are confident of the relationship. And then the reality hits. You seem pretty level headed so use your brains instead of your heart and make the right choice. All the best.
2006-08-29 04:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by mamamia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month is too soon for any couple to start thinking of marriage. Engagement comes prior to getting married. Two years together and you will be able to answer your own question about who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
When you received a new toy as a child it was good in the beginning too. Every relationship is better in the beginning, even a new friend. Let time tell you, wait it's your life and the biggest answer of your life. Marriage is a chance taken by everyone, there is no way of telling how long it will last.
I wish you good health & happiness.
2006-08-29 04:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by gdmantle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're not mature enough to know if you're with the one or not. Because you are thinking about marriage with someone and yet you bring out his nationality and your height difference into the equation. Physical and geographical factors don't matter if you really want to marry someone and spend the rest of your life with them. The one is the person that you want to be with for your entire life, the person you want to go to bed with each and every night, the person who you want to be around when you are sick or when he is sick, when you're in trouble or when he is in trouble you want to be able to help or be helped, someone that you want to have children with, someone that you can talk with and communicate, someone who's understanding and supportive. If he mentioned marriage early on, he might be thinking that you are the one for him but for you, you might have to take some time and be sure but whatever you do decide...make sure you are honest about it.
2006-08-29 04:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew from the beginning even before we came an item that he was the one and would have a hugh impact on my life. I think you just have to follow your instincts thats what my mam always told me
2006-08-29 04:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no such thing as THE ONE... there is THE ONE RIGHT NOW... :D
2006-08-29 04:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋