When I socialise with a friend of mine, everywhere we go, has resulted in me having made all the arrangements. I've been out with her many, many times and it's always been me deciding and organising where to go. I have yet to here her come up with a suggestion to go anywhere. She keeps saying, "we'll have to go to such-and-such....." but I never see it!!! What should I do? I tell her that we should take it in turns to go places, but I still don't see it coming from her.
2006-08-28 20:59:01 · 3 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some people are users and/or procrastinators. Its possible your friend is either one or both. Its up to you to put new rules into place. Stand up to her and in as friendly a way as you can let her know that for the sake of fairness she has t step up and share the responsibilities equally. If she object, then ween yourself away from planning anymore events with her.
She is satisfied with sitting back and letting you do all the work. As long as you do it she will continue to let you. She will probably come up with that you are much better than her at it and you have to counter with that may be so but in good faith she still have to try and do her part. Otherwise you will feel used and taken advantage of.
At that point the ball will be in her court and it will be up to her to determine how much she value your friendship.
2006-08-28 21:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you find out if she is to be your friend...do you know what to do when you ask somebody's help. Try in prayer,,,you're alone in your room, start talking to God!
2006-08-29 04:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by liveasahb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
Why do not you talk to her frankly?What makes you not to tell her to change her approach?
2006-08-29 04:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by girum_tadesse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋