Left me after 21 years, kids grown, I seem to be of no use anymore. What happend next, she does it and comes home or is this it till I die of old age waiting for her
2006-08-28 20:43:45 · 20 answers · asked by Christopher b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to tell you honey, but it seems your wife isn't coming back. The kids are grown and she has no more use for you, don't spend the rest of your life waiting. Go out ad find someone new. Or just be content with being single
2006-08-28 20:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by datcreekgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she left, you must decide on how long you will wait for her. Sometimes for a female to leave means they really wanted to in teh first place and just held on for some reason. A lot of times if they leave (especially if you've been together for so long) there was someone else in the picture or they don't appreciate having a good man around, that's if you've been really good to her, some women don't appreciate it and it is very unfortunate. Some women are the mold of an "unfit" wife, they make poor choices and do return depending on the situation on how and why they might have left. If you feel like moving on after so long, then do so, no one told her to leave you and no one can expect the other to wait on them forever. So be patient at first, then you'll make more rational decisions and pray about your decisions as well.
2006-08-28 21:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry to say but maybe she stuck it out for quite sometime for the best interest of the children and now that they r grown she feels that now it is time for her. She stayed and raised them and put herself and her needs on a shelf until it was time and now she needs to go find herself again and who she wants to be what she wants to do. Talk to her and tell her u understand that and will be willing to support her that she did not have to leave to do all that u r right there behind her. Try and take a second honeymoon just the two of u and see if that works. If she does not want to come back then well sorry but it is then time to file and move on. P.S. If that is really u in that picture u r a very handsome man and Should not have any problem moving on as long as u have a personality to back your looks.:) Good Luck Hope for the best.
2006-08-29 01:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the **** is wrong with people today. Did you dog her for 21 years and she filled her commitment to her children and left.
Or are you just a good Christian man going through another trial.
Remember God will not put more on you than you can handle. Pray and give it up to the Lord.
2006-08-28 20:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by zefray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait around for her. So she left you, you're not the only one this has happened to. Go out, get a hobby, make some friends so she'll know that you're independant and not just moping for her. But if you do get to talk to her, you really should consider taking marriage counselling if she's willing. After all, things must've gotten pretty tough for her to leave you after 21 years. So give it a chance but only if she wants to, no point doint it by yourself.
2006-08-28 21:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this has happened to you. Ask her if she might consider coming back. If the answer is no......then please don't grow old waiting for her.
I was married 26 years when it happened to me. I have started my life over. Romance is better at this age.
Don't let this ruin you happiness for the future.
ps you are very handsome. I am sure you won't have problems finding a wonderful woman to settle down with again
2006-08-28 21:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sad to think after all the time you spent and she did this . very sad get out and find another she didnt fail to leave .she onley thought of her wants. lifes to short. to wonder as well wait ad honlesty. why would you want her after all she do it again. she wont come back . sorry to say and very sad to think of. good luck . ?
2006-08-28 23:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow maybe she just needs some space give her a little time i say no longer than a month if she isnt back move on with your life your more useful than you know dont sit back and feel sorry for yourself enjoy life you only have 1 to live its her lost
2006-08-28 20:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww...you deserve so much better. It's so sweet that you're waiting for her. But don't you want to find someone who truely loves you? Someone whom you wouldn't have to "wait for"? Good Luck! I hope things get better for you.
2006-08-28 21:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty much just sit around miserable and deal with it you knew it was one of the possibilities getting married in the first place and deal with it and suffer in silence endlessly unless she divorces you then to the end suck it up
2006-08-28 21:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by 123_000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋