2006-08-28 19:38:17 · 18 answers · asked by augurswell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you will do is to be an instrument for their path in which you will make them love each just be neutral and set the time balnce with your mother and your wife and you will see time shall come and everything shall be changed...
2006-08-28 19:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas Odin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is most common short term conflict between a wife and a mother in each families in India. This is basically a game plan between two females to show each other how much she is important in your life. In long run both give up and becomes real friends.
Most of the males neglect this battle as he cannot take decision which one he will support. If you cannot wait for that long run, then you have to be a player in their game too. Plan out a serious job or health problem involving you and then you will understand their depth of dislikeness towards each other.
2006-08-29 01:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dipak B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They won't get along. No matter what you do or say.
You have some options:
a) Choose sides. So one of them will start to hate you too.
b) Don't get in the line of fire. It will take some time, but some day they will hate you both.
c) Changes sides depending on the topic they are arguing over. Same results as b).
d) Shout at them and make it clear that YOU don't like the way the behave. Use harsh words and make it clear that you are not willing to take this any longer. They might listen to you and might reduce their fighting. But it might also lead to b).
What ever you do, your mom is your mom. She can't change that. So she might some day accept that you choose to side with your wife. If you choose your mom over your wife, you should start looking for a good divorce lawyer...
2006-08-28 19:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by ak2005ok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how long have you been married if it's more than 8-9 months then you should talk to your wife and sort out the things by helping her by your way as well as you can and after that which ever problem remains consult your father (if he is cooperative ) if you are still in some kind of confusion then take time for couple of hours and then talk to your mother in the presence of your wife and help them to manage if it does not work then talk to your wife in private where she likes to be and tell her to be cooperative to the family and try to manage a good relation what ever it takes for some months so that at the time when you have a child who will atomatically encorage each and every person of the family to cooperate with each other and there will be no time for any one to pull each other legs
2006-08-28 23:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by alag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them both a lesson or two on respect and its benefits, finally to the good of the entire family. You can make your wife to make a lead.
2006-08-28 21:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get them to do anything. Unfortunately, you will untimately have to make a decision. Your wife or your mother. It also depends on who is causing the problem. That is a hard one. Me and my husband had the same issue, however it was his mother who was causing the problem and he decided to stick with his wife.
2006-08-28 19:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Smooda 1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. That's between them. Your mom probably has issues. Maybe she thinks your wife "stole" you from her.
Tell your mom you'd come around more if she was the "bigger person" and tried to get along with your wife. It's your marriage, and she has no right to cause problems.
A girlfriend is one thing, but a wife is quite another when it comes to the mom relationship.
2006-08-28 19:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant!
Stay away from their fights or argurments.
I know it is sad to watch.
If you wife ask you, give honest opion, but try to be very nice about it.
She will not be happy if you take sides, so try not to take side.
Instead, only give answer to the question she ask you, and make it clear that it is just your opion. And finish up by saying that you are not 100% sure how to handle it.
Let her come up with the answers, if you know what i mean.
Good luck, you will need it.
2006-08-28 19:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by dcw13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your spouse that the 1st guy or woman to say sorry is a guy or woman of valor. She ought to upward thrust to the social gathering, say sorry, enable it circulate. Why do they "hate" one yet another? Is it because of the fact your mom would not think of your decision of a mate is stable sufficient for you? Is there something in specific your mom would not like approximately your spouse or vice versa? Do you spend greater time with mom than you do your spouse? Did one among them do/say something poor to the different? There may be a bunch of motives, yet information WHY each and each won't say sorry to the different must be desperate. they ought to, a minimum of, be civil in the event that they are able to't be loving in the direction of one yet another. in case you could help your spouse see that being a mature and to blame guy or woman will earn your mom's recognize, you would be doing her a huge choose. i do no longer think of your mom's going to budge in this subject.
2016-10-01 01:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by raffone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take them some time to respect each other (if they ever do) and there's nothing you can do to hurry it along.
2006-08-28 19:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋