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Question

I own a business and for almost a year we have been donating what we can to this one agency( won't name names). well I notified them last week that due to slow business this month we won't be able to help and told them as soon as it picks back up we will. I get an email this morning from them that was rude and the author of this email ( btw from one of the directors ) " I would like to thank you for abandoning those in need so you won't miss a paycheck" and it then proceeds downhill from there. I figured this had to be a joke and called well it wasn't got the same hostility. I want to be mad but I am figuring I'm just dealing with people that really want to help. I'm trying not to be one of those that say "F*** em let em do everything on there own" Yet this happens and I see so many waiting for handouts and doing nothing to pull themselves up. I know I'm just seeing the bad and their are alot of good honest people trying . But just how mad should i be about this event?

Answer 1

I'd find another charity to donate to and let the charity you have been donating to know exactly what caused you to change your charity of preference. Their rudeness and unprofessionalism towards you after such a long period of time donating to them makes me wonder how they treat those they are "helping". Doesn't it you?

Answer 2

Hell, I'd say when business picks back up, donate to a different agency. I know that in the end that it only really hurts the people in need if the aid stops, but you as a business can't be bullied or guilted into giving what you don't have.
Give to someone else. And then, let these guys know that you are and why. Maybe it will give them pause and they can try different, gentler tactics in the future.
As far as how mad you should be, be as mad as your feelings for the subject are, you're entitled. You've helped this agency when you can, and there are SO MANY people in the position to do so that do not, so they should appreciate you.
I personally carry a grudge like most people carry an overstuffed suitcase - not really happy about it until the resolution point.

Answer 3

Well, if your business is making a statement about this organization - to further your sales in some way, (i.e. Proceeds from this bag of chips will help the AYSO soccer league pay for their uniforms) - or if you run a non-profit to further their cause - then, they have every right to be angry and upset. Because it is part of your marketing stragegy and your action could be seen as a breech of contract. HOWEVER, if they have just gotten used to your donations - and have indeed lost the graciousness then, they are completely out of line - and if i were you i would look to find another charitable entity to help out in the future (there are so many needy and just causes). Good luck getting your business back on it's feet again.

Answer 4

That was completely out of line on the part of the charity. You have an obligation to make your payroll and if you bankrupt your company you won't be able to make any donations ever again. Find a new charity to support because the one you described isn't worthy. You have every right to be offended and would go over the author's head to his boss.

Answer 5

That is a tough situation, but I don't think one business missing a months donation is abandoning those in need. Its nice to know those in need can be so demanding. If you still feel like associating with them just ignore the unpleasantries and get back with them when you can. You do what you can when you can - they aren't owed anything. Have you actually seen how much of your money is going to 'those in need' and not those who might be taking advantage?

Answer 6

People who work for non profit agencies are often overworked and stressed out. They take their causes seriously and don't understand why other people aren't as committed as they are. It sounds to me like the person who wrote to you is on the verge of a nervous collapse and needs help. It would be nice if you could talk to someone else in the agency and let them know what is going on. That person could cause a lot of harm to the organization if he isn't dealt with appropriately, removed if necessary.

Answer 7

Mad yes.
Some People live for a cause, that all there is and if you don't have the same level of devotion to the cause you are against the cause.
People become addicted to hand outs, They need that fix.

Give a man a fish you have made a dependent
Teach a man to fish you have created taxable revenue

Answer 8

So, you give freely of yourself when no one asks. But when you stop (and promise to continue no less) you get spite and not so much of a "Well thanks for all you've done so far. But if you could find it in you, please remember us when you're more able to help us." I mean COME ON! What JERKS! They obviously don't need you help that badly or they wouldn't have been so rude to you now would they? I commend you for what you've done, but ya know what? There are TONS of charities and people out there who would be VERY grateful to recieve donations from you. Maybe you should consider giving your hard earned $ to them instead of some people who obviously don't appriciate you.
Just my 2 cents though.

Answer 9

When possible I would seek another agency to donate to.
The rudeness toward you was uncalled for. They should have thanked you for your assistance and wished you well and that they would be anxiously awaiting your financial recovery.
But what it sounds like to me is that the people working the agency aren't going to receive the money from you that they were expecting to pay themselves before funds are disbursed to the needy.

Find another worthy agency to donate to.

Answer 10

dont ever send them a cent again. for one thing most of these places take more than half of the money for running the deal and the needy get less than half to in some cases they never see as much as a crust of bread, the nastier they are about losing your money the more crooked they are, i think you should do what you can to investigate these people and maybe bring suit against them, im sorry your generousity has been so ill treated, many blessings to you.