How. do you feel you have to be one way in certain situations, and different in others? Do you admit this regularly or struggle with it? this is open to anything you have to say.
2006-08-28 19:05:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is something like, if only i knew...
2006-08-28 19:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to some degree. From 8-5, I'm a businesswoman, a victim's advocate, prim & proper, politically correct, and basically a clean cut lady.
But I drive home to the edge of the ghetto...and I mean that literally. I am a divorced mother of 2 and I have to drive past liquor stores, the projects, through unemployed guys with their beer in brown paperbags and women spilling out of their clothes as they walk the road...
Then you get on my street. It's a mixed neighborhood with brick homes and nice yards but still right around the corner is poverty and lack of education and motivation.
When I go home, I transform from Ms. so and so to an around the way girl from the hood. I can't be going into my neighborhood getting in other people's business trying to tell them what they already know about what's right and wrong. I mind my business, have an alarm system set up to prevent break ins (had one when I first moved to the neighborhood), listen to my rap and R&B music and revert to some slang according to who I'm talking to.
This is not to put my people or my "hood" down. I love my Blackness but I know that in order to work as an officer of the court and be respected in the world of law enforcement and the courts I have to govern myself a certain way around lawyers, judges, and other officials.
So which am I, Ms. Prim Prude or Ms. Round the Way, actually neither...I am both rolled into one. I can suit up and present myself with such clarity that some would even question if I have ever heard of the ghetto and I can take it down a lot of notches and be comfortable taking a walk around the block and carrying on friendly conversation with the people that live around me. The thing that my double life makes me fully aware of is that there are good and bad people from all walks of life regardless of financial status, race, education, ethnic backgrounds, etc.
2006-08-29 10:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think one has to live with wats around f it cant be avoided. am a happy person all day long till i reach home where my mother in law is. sometimes i have to force a smile to show that am pleased to c hr bt sometimes its too much and i dnt even want to reach home bt have to just for the sake of my Baby. all people who c me think am the happiest person without any trouble but it's only the ME who knows how i lead a double life. try to be happy n let no-one notice your sadness.... this is the only way u keep people around you happy...
2006-08-29 02:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The life I live is the total opposite of what I feel I should be living. I don't like anything about my real life. Maybe thats why I fall asleep so easily...then I go to dreamland... the life I should be living.
2006-08-29 02:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by NightHowler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned in my early 20's that it's better to be me in ALL situations. But lots of ppl are like what you're saying. Sometimes I guess it's easier to be what you think others will expect you to be. But I figure it like this...why try to please everyone when the only one you really have to satisfy is you!
2006-08-29 02:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep...straight A college student by day...party animal with a future drinking problem by night (and not just thursday, friday and saturday night....i'm talking monday - saturday)
2006-08-29 02:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 5 difretn ones:)
its about the jurney
2006-08-29 02:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at times i think i do , and it drives me insaine, not like a phcho , but arround my husbands parents we have to put on a fasaud, and arround other people its normal
2006-08-29 02:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by delana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah .... Married to someone I pitty .... in love with some I adore ... 2 completly diffrent lives .....
2006-08-29 02:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes i do, but one day i am gonna unite!
2006-08-29 02:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel this is normal in life!!!
2006-08-29 02:11:47 · answer #11 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋