I'm 16 years old and pregnant. Can my mother make me get an abortion or make me give the baby up for adoption?

Answer 1

No but she can disown you and kick you out of the house if you don't.

Answer 2

I am a 36 yr old mum of 4 my eldest daughter is 19yrs old. when i had her there was not the support that there is these days. Having a baby at a very young age seriously effects the rest of your life. Your mother can NOT make you give up this baby or make you have an abortion. Only you can make these choices and they are hard to make.You really need to think about what sort of life you can give this baby. I DO NOT believe in abortion but I do believe there are good people who would love a baby and can't have one if you put this baby up for adoption he/she will have a good life and he/she will come and find you later on in life.
p.s the next time you think about having sex with someone make sure there is a least one ring on your finger

Answer 3

She will have no say in your decision to keep the child beyond whether or not she will financially support you. She very well may decide not to because it's not her responsibility. You need to be prepared for that outcome.

If she won't... you do still have options beyond adoption or abortion. Make some calls and you'll find resources that can help. You aren't the first teenage girl to become pregnant and choose to raise her child.. you won't be the last. There are programs that can help you.

Just remember.. if you call an adoption resource... they'll try and talk you into adoption. Same thing for abortion. Try to find an independant 3rd party that gives advice on options, not referrals.

As for your Mother..Do Not let her pressure you. This is a decision that YOU will have to live with, not her.


Adoption can be a wonderful thing. I'm an adoptive mother myself. It's worked out well for all of us involved in the triad. So I am a big adoption over abortion supporter.

But that doesn't mean it's the right choice for you. Some people handle it fine.. others are torn up over the decision for the rest of their lives...

The ones who are happy with their decision are women who made the choice on their own without pressure from outside parties. The ones who are eaten up inside over it often felt they had no choice in the matter. And from your post, that sounds like where you stand.

Choice makes all the difference. Whether you choose to have the baby or abort. Whether you choose to relinquish the child for adoption or keep him or her and raise them yourself.....

It's your choice.

It seems crazy because at your age you can't even choose whether to drink or not.. whether to smoke or not... so it feels overwhelming, I know.

But this is one of those life-altering decisions that you have no choice but to be ready to make... and you are the only one who can do it. Because you're the one who will have to stand by the decision and make peace with it.


Not your mother, not your boyfriend, not your guidance counselor.

There is no easy answer. Just remember it's YOUR choice... don't allow anyone to intimidate and rob you of it.

Answer 4

No. You can be considered an adult in some states just because you are carrying another life inside you. No matter what your mother tells you, this is your choice! She may be able to kick you out though, so you need to contact womens Shelters, and centers that can help. You will most likely qualify for state assistance such as housing, tech-schools, and even WIC. (this is all while you are pregnant, you don't have to wait til the baby is born to find help.) Plus, if you can talk with the baby's father and his family they might be willing to take you in. Think about your options, if you really want to keep the baby, you should. In a couple years you'll be on your own, and you mother won't be able to say a thing, but "I'm sorry I didn't support you in your time of need."

Answer 5

No, she absolutely can NOT. Forced abortions and adoptions are illegal. Please go to a pregnancy care center near you right away. They will be able to give you good advice and possibly even a safe place to stay if that is something you need. They can also give you referrals for financial, medical, and legal assistance; free ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. All of their services are free and confidential. You can find a center near you here:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

or by calling 1-800-395-HELP

Here's some more information you may need:

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

You can do the right thing. Be strong and protect yourself and your baby, no matter what. Remember, you are a mom now, too, and your baby is counting on you for love and protection. Your baby's life is more important than your mom's disapproval, and most likely she will come around in the end, anyway. Once most grandparents see their grandbaby, they just melt! Just be sure to go to a pregnancy care center so you will have a good support network throughout your pregnancy. Take care.

Answer 6

No, she can't do either. What she can do, is take you to court, prove that you are unfit to care for a baby and then win custody, even terminate your parental rights in severe cases. After that, she'll have the say in what happens to this child...not you....you are still a child, and this is being done more and more often. I suggest you get yourself a good job, finish your education and start making plans as to how you are going to support this baby. If you take a responsible approach, maybe things will work out. However, if you do nothing, then I'm afraid you may not be so happy with the outcome.

Answer 7

I am not for abortion, and I am proud of you to want to keep your baby. I think the decision is up to you, and the baby's father. Parents should not be able to force their child to have an abortion.

I could not find any info about parents forcing you to an abortion or laws regarding it.

I did find some information and a phone number to call:
Planned Parenthood
1-800-772-9100.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/abortion/choosing-abortion.htm

Call the above number and talk with them about what you can or may be able to do. You have other options available to you. If your parents want you to do something you don't believe is the right thing, then you can go other places that are safe. Please talk to Planned Parenthood, and send an email to [e-mail], she may be able to help also.

Choosing Abortion

The chances are high that a woman will have more than one unplanned pregnancy in the course of her lifetime. More than one-third of all U.S. women will have an abortion by the time they are 45 years old. About six million women in the U.S. become pregnant every year. Half of those pregnancies are unintended. Nearly 1.3 million women choose abortion to end their pregnancy each year.
The most common reasons a woman chooses abortion are

She is not ready to become a parent.
She cannot afford a baby.
She doesn't want to be a single parent.
She doesn't want anyone to know she has had sex or is pregnant.
She is too young or too immature to have a child.
She has all the children she wants.
Her husband, partner, or parent wants her to have an abortion.
She or the fetus has a health problem.
She was a survivor of rape or incest.


Deciding If Abortion Is Right For You

Most women look to their husbands, partners, families, health care providers, clergy, or someone else they trust for support as they make their decision about an unintended pregnancy. And many women go to the clinic with their partner. But you don't have to tell anybody. Specially trained educators at women's health clinics can talk with you in private. You may bring someone with you. You will discuss your options — adoption, parenting, and abortion. You may be asked if someone is pressuring you to have an abortion.

Teens are encouraged to involve parents in their decision to have an abortion, and most do have a parent involved. But telling a parent is only required in states with mandatory parental involvement laws. Such laws force a woman under 18 to tell a parent or get parental permission before having an abortion. In most of these states, if she can't talk with her parents — or chooses not to — she can appear before a judge. The judge will consider whether she's mature enough to decide on her own. If not, the judge will decide whether an abortion is in the teen's best interests. In any case, if there are complications during the procedure, parents of minors may be notified.

Here are some things to consider if you are thinking about abortion.


1. No one is pressuring me to choose abortion. True False
2. I have strong religious beliefs against abortion. True False
3. I look down on women who have abortions. True False
4. I'd rather have a child at another time. True False
5. I can afford to have another child. True False
6. I can afford to have an abortion. True False
7. I care about what other people will think. True False
8. I can handle the abortion experience. True False
9. I'll go before a judge if necessary. True False
10. I would do anything to end this pregnancy. True False

Think about whether or not your answers suggest that abortion might be right for you.

You can get abortion information and assistance at Planned Parenthood and other family planning centers, women's health centers, youth centers, and departments of health or social services. Or you can call the National Abortion Federation hotline: [phone].

To make an appointment with the Planned Parenthood center nearest you for information about abortion and your other pregnancy options, call toll-free 1-800-230-PLAN.

Answer 8

Legally I don't think that there are any laws on the books saying that your mother can do either. However, as you are a minor, and I somewhat doubt that because of this you have a steady income, it could very well be easy for your mother to coerce you into either choice. Emanciation could fix that problem, and I think that you had a judge with good common sense and a tendancy toward indignancy when it comes to the infringment of rights, it would be somewhat simple, minus the paper work. All in all, I wish you luck.

Answer 9

All who are putting this young girl down should be ashamed of yourselves....whats done is done maybe there wasn't anybody to teach her any better or whatever the situation it wasn't right and she has to learn the hard way....No honey your mom cant make you unless she can prove in court that you are unstable to care for this child....whether your mom likes it or not this is your choice and hopefully she realizes what shes asking you to do ....that is her grand baby in there that she wants to kill....But on the real honey you need to remember this might be all on you to take care of on your own don't al ready assume someone might help in your family circle....Yes there is help outside that circle too but are you ready for it ...Choosing adoption doesn't make you a bad mother either , Just a mother who wants the best for her unborn child.....good luck....

Answer 10

Well I understand I got pregnant at 16 too. Well heres the answer that you wanted.... No your mom can't make you do any of those things but at the same time, she may not want to take care of the child... If you really want to keep your baby like I did you need to see if there are any places in your town that help teen moms... And if you are with the father of the baby then talk to him about what he wants to do. But if not then, that can make things a little harder but you can do if you really want it bad enough...

But if you need someone to talk to or help you can always email me at- [e-mail]
And if not then good luck with everything -Michelle-

Answer 11

No. If she takes you to a clinic they will not give you an abortion if you object. Any clinic that does would have to tie you down and put you out and that's a crime.

Not sure about the adoption. You will have to go to social services web site in your state. Get on-line and talk to a social worker.