Do you think the "It takes a village" philospophy has made parents lazy?

Question

I see so many parents famring their kids out to nannies, nursery schools, grandparents on the weekends. Sometimes I think, hey, you had the kids but why is everyone else raising them?

Answer 1

I agree with you that the parents have the principal responsibility for raising children, and I also agree with you that many people seem not to be living up to that responsiblity nowadays. I'm not sure the motivation is the "it takes a village" mentality, though. They just aren't doing their jobs.

Answer 2

I don't think it's the "it takes a village" philosophy which has people using nannies, nursery schools, so on... Parents using things like this often don't tend to be terribly integrated in the community. Mostly these are people who are either lazy or really don't have time to raise children (which means they need to change their life if they have them so they get the time or NOT HAVE THEM), so they rely on rating systems to tell them what's safe for their children, then the entertainment industry to raise them. When they need to make sure they're monitored in some respect to keep them from making out with a wall socket or something, as children often tend to try as naturally curious creatures, then they turn to outside sources.

The "village" philosophy involves people working in a symbiotic relationship with their community, sharing advice, responsibility, and a genuine sense of caring. People who ABUSE this system are never truly part of it.

And grandparents most often ADORE seeing their grandchildren... I don't think you could ever really give most grandparents TOO much time with their grandchildren!

Answer 3

The idea of "It takes a village to raise a kid" does not mean that the parents are spared from their responsibilities.

Sending kids to someone else to be taken care of doesn't fit in this philosophy.

It is meant for shaping the child's proper character. And I don't think that by keeping the child by the parents' side every single minute is going to make the child good. Parents are not necessarily the best mentor and a child not exposed to the community will grow inwards.

Perhaps you are pointing at those parents who tried to push their kids to others for their own selfish reasons. For that I do agree that it wont do the child any good.

Answer 4

I think this kind of sheet has gone too far. I raised four kids without any help from anyone. They are all excellent. I loved them so much I did not let them do everything they wanted. I hugged them, supported them, and smacked their butts when they did not behave. I did not have to do that very many times. And you know what ? They love and respect me as I do them. They are all grown, doing very well and passing on the tradition. I fully realize this is out dated but it works very well.

Thank God they did not turn out like Hillary. I would have shot myself.

Answer 5

I think people are so busy making a living ie.. money..that a lot of the true values have been forgotten..ie family.

Its a sad reflection on todays society.

Answer 6

Yes.

Answer 7

No, I think selfishness and our self-centered society has made parents less attentive than they should be.

Answer 8

Yes..