Sometimes spanking doesn't work. Sometimes you have to get harsher. Belts, beatings, whatever it takes to controll your BRATTY sons and daughters.
Since it's just punishment why is it against the law?
2006-08-28 18:05:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
abuse is not about correcting erronous behaviour in the same manner as discipline. Abuse is about power, control, subjugation and the denial of basic human rights through, physical, psycological and emotional means. The end purpose of abuse is not to provide a negative feedback response to a particular behaviour, but to satisfy the the desires of the abuser. The fundamental motivations for the two are different, the person discipling a child does not seek pleasure from their actions whereas the abuser will receive gratification through their actions.
2006-08-28 18:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Saani_G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you have to do is get your kids to look up to you. Respect you. Trust you.
Respect will not come with a million "beatings". Only fear. With fear comes resentment. Resentment breeds rebellion.
I'm not saying that an occasional spanking isn't necessary, it can be. But if you do, it should never be a "beating". And you always need to be consistent.
I was lucky enough to have a father that took the time to explain why i should do or not do something. If the reason wasn't enough, there was always a spanking.
But to tell you the truth, the spanking was never what hurt me the worst. It was the idea that my father was disappointed in me, that hurt more than any "beating" ever could.
Respect will earn you more with your children than fear ever can.
2006-08-29 01:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rocket Surgeon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because we have come to a point in our civilization where we know that abuse of any kind can have negative results and the proper correction of a situation has long lasting positive results. Are some kids harder to reach? Yes, but the people who think that belts, beatings, what ever it takes, must step up to the challenge of not doing so at all costs. There are some great psychologists out there that understand children very well. Its worth the research to look at alternate ways of reaching their children.
2006-08-29 01:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by brokolay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is NOT a form of punishment and beatings IS abuse. You can punish kids without physically injuring them. It is a very sensitive subject, but parents have to love and be patient in order to raise kids the right way. Lessons taught by parents whether good or bad will come out in the kids and go on to their kids and so on.
2006-08-29 01:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punishment isn't against the law but beating your kid until there's blood and bruises that take weeks to go away is.
2006-08-29 01:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Firefly 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because punishment sounds really abusive. . .maybe the term "discpline" could be better but I dunno. Anyways punishment is against the law because it is true that some parents take it a little to far; yet, there are other safe methods to punishing your kids instead of hitting them such as taking away their phone, television, etc. Besides, it seems you HATE your kids because who calls their own kids bratty
2006-08-29 01:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
a spanking or even a whippin is hardly against the law, when you start breaking bones and causing a child to bleed it is. If you cant control your children to the point that you need to "abuse" them maybe your parenting skill just plain out SUCK....
2006-08-29 01:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
because as a civilised society, we should have progressed beyond using mere brute force to control people. only stupid crude and selfish people beat their children. of course, since beating your wife is just punishment too, that should be lega too, right? according to your logic, yes. if you are a good parent, then you shouldn't have to even spank your kids, because you would have raised them to know better
2006-08-29 01:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by C_Millionaire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you do not need a belt or beatings to control a child if you can not control them do something about it. Behavior is learned where did the children learn to act like that
2006-08-29 01:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Snoopy 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If your kids are that out of control then you obviously did something wrong along the way. If you can't control yourself, how can they? You set the example, and they follow it.
2006-08-29 01:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋