2006-08-28 18:03:33 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not personally knowing you, or your boyfriend, or anything else about your relationship, it's tough to give a "good" answer to that question, but jealousy is something very serious that doesn't go away easilly. There's probably a serious trust issue involved. Whether or not you gave your boyfriend a reason to distrust you isn't important - some people can't trust as easilly as others, due to any one of many issues they've had with relationships in the past. You do need to stand up for yourself, though. If you feel like you're being controlled, not being allowed to "go out" - or do what makes you you, then you need to address that. Talk to him, honestly - without trying to instigate an argument - and let him know how you feel. You need to be able to be happy and be yourself. If your boyfriend doesn't allow that, you need to find someone that you'll be happy and relaxed to be with. Good luck!
2006-08-28 18:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by drewbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Do not know your age, but i will tell you this right now,
your second sentence, "HE DOESN'T LET ME GO OUT"
that is your decision, how can he stop you unless you are in shackles,and give him permission to control you.
What i am trying to say is your boyfriend is not your owner.. he has no right ever to say you can do this or you cant do that,
you are not allowed to wear this, or that etc.
IF you set up the relationship like that, that is what it is,
he is your "MASTER" AND you are nothing,
Giving up your own free will, and choices, for any man or woman, or child, is asking for a life of misery,, do you enjoy that,? I PROMISE, IT WONT GET BETTER, AND THAT IS NOT LOVE, that is just control and anger.
Being possesive, and jealous is a control thing,, and not about love.
How can anyone make you understand, that you get what you settle for,
TELL HIM TO "GO FRY ICE" you do not have to allow him to give orders, or allow you to come and go,
We do not have legalization of "slaves" in America, and if you are under the authority of a bully, you need help,
so you decide, how you want to l ive your life, and do it,
good luck,
2006-08-29 01:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't let you go out??? What? You are not a prisoner. He is controlling and possessive and probably has all the markings of an emotional abuser. How can you make him understand? Dump him. He doesn't own you. If you let him dictate to you what you can and cannot do, you are giving away your power and you'd be a glutton for punishment. Cut him loose.
2006-08-29 01:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the mistake of confusing jealousy for love. The fact you said "he doesn't let me" is proof that he already has you under his control. This is not going to change and he has some serious issues which are going to effect your life in negative ways. Tell him that you are going to live life on your terms. If he can not accept that it is his problem and let him deal with the consequences of his own actions. The last I heard slavery was abolished in this country.
2006-08-29 01:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you see the trend here?!
Everything everyone is telling you is the truth. You cannot make him understand. Trust is a HUGE part of a relationship and if he doesn't trust you, then there will be NO pleasing him. You either have to put up with it and stay home, or you get out of the relationship while you can. If not, it will get worse..............WORSE!!!!!
2006-08-29 01:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by RangerBob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is dangerous. If you are not in some type of long term commitment with him, leave him. But be careful. He may not accept your decision and come hunting you threatening violence. The jealous can be dangerous.
2006-08-29 01:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by lil'oleJewler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he has blue past such as he left by his girlfriend that he loved so much and he doesn't want that will happen to him again. Ensure him that he can trust you since you just love him only and never do anything will hurt him.
I hope it wil help you...good luck
2006-08-29 01:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt a way to make him understand! u should just leave him before things get worse cuz if u dont ur going to blame urself in the end!
2006-08-29 01:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by munkieluv0110 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend that controlling, there is no convincing him of anything. Just get out while you can. And why are you letting him dictate what you can and cannot do? That's B.S.
2006-08-29 01:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a health relationship to be in. You should leave him as soon as you can he doesn’t love you are basically his prisoner / slave. Maybe you can try to have a talk with him but if that doesn’t work get out. It could lead to your death.
2006-08-29 01:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋