She seems to talk to the other man then me. She just says Go! Don't bother me. Just take care of the kids.
2006-08-28 17:58:54 · 44 answers · asked by dinehshii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave her *** and take the kids with you. make her pay child support
2006-08-28 18:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by freetronics 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well divorce is the only option, but even if she did cheat on you, you have children together so she is still entitled to half of everything (including your super to date), and as sinister as this may sound you should start building evidence for charter assignation, IE does she drink heavily, use drugs, gamble, is abusive to the children or an unfit parent in any way. At least to give yourself a chance of full custody of your children and in turn retain the family home until they are all over 16. Because in this day and age the mother always has more rights than the father when it comes to custody of the children.
Retain a good lawyer and start preparing now, even if you do cut off all her funds she can still retain a good lawyer as alot of them will take a percentage out of the settlement rather than an ongoing fee.
Don't let your emotions get the better of you, your children need a stable environment even if it is with only one parent, the last thing you want to have happen is you end up living in a one bedroom flat, while you wife shacks up with this other guy in your home and you pay 70% of your income in child support and only see you kids every other weekend......I'm sorry for your situation
2006-08-28 19:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by SketchyDrafty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can work it out for the sake of the kids. She does not seem to love you though. If you do not divorce her she might divorce you especially since she seems to want to be with the other man. She does not value the beautiful kids you two have and does not value you, you could be the best but if her heart is set on someone else she'll just resent you if you don't let her go.
2006-08-28 18:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you could do that. But then there is another option which works sometimes. Take the evening to take her out and sit her down, maybe over dinnier and talk things through. Explain to her your almost real feelings (don't want to go all out as yet). Try to see where she sits on the fence of your marriage. Find out what more she needs and then make your decision after that. And another thing...If it looks like the convo's going nowhere with her just do like he said and "Drop her like a bad habit"
"Love is only good when it hurts"
2006-08-28 18:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man, I think it is time to take the kids over to the boyfriends house and say here kids take a look at the man that mommy is losing daddy over. Yes we will no longer be a family because this guy doesn' care enough about you to let us be a family. Now mommy and him have to go do whatever it is they do.
Then take your kids and see what Italy looks like this time of the year.
2006-08-28 18:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what that guy said drop her like a bad habbit. she cheats on u she talks to that other dude and tells u not to bother her and to take care of kids? divorce is all i can think of. take her to court and win over the kids the house and everything. and leave her with nothing cause that is what she deserves. she obviously doesnt love u or respect u, or doesnt even care. leave her NOW!
2006-08-28 18:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by hotmodelanti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh men thats hard well if i were you i would take all my kids and leave my wife in that way she could be happy with that man and you finding another its really hard to make a decision but make sure your kids understands everything but for your kids try to make your marriage work not for you not for her but for your kids no kid has ever live a happy life with there parnts separated
2006-08-28 18:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's the one unsure of your marriage?!? If she cheated on you, she should be begging for you to take her back. Since she was unfaithful, you can legally divorce her, and she will recieve no settlement. Nothing. If she's still communicating with the person whom she had an affair with, you should run for the hills. She obviously doesn't respect you. She promised to love, honor, and obey. She's just broken all three.
2006-08-28 18:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by jsprplc2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing is to obey, do what she says, go and take care of the kids, because they are Innocent, and live her since she didn't want you any more , but i want to tell you something if she is being cheating you she is going to cheat the other man too, and even if she stays with you , she is going to cheat again, she is a cheater.
2006-08-28 18:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by santa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her but to the curb. Tell her if she wants the other guy the get out. Make her leave so the kids don't have to move. This is going to be hard enough on them as it is.
2006-08-28 18:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a bum. "Go! Don't bother me. Just take care of the kids????" I would say Good Riddance to her. Be glad your rid of her. She's a bottom feeder. File for divorce and find someone worthy of you.
2006-08-28 18:07:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋