Even though I do agree that children should be bold an dstand strong in their faith, just like adults do, I do not think that they should put any parent under an ultimatum to get mom and dad back together. You oldest child is acting out the same some children do when the dad is not around and the mom can't control them. She probably knows more about right and wrong than you may think and that is why she is acting out. If your husband is not a Christian, and you are, then you are unequally yoked, and why would you want him back?? Read through the Book of I Corinthians (especially Ch. 7:10-16), because he is in darkness and you are in Light and there is not place for you guys to be together. He should not be a friend, but a parent, and that is going to bite him in the butt eventually, if it hasn't already.
2006-08-28 18:15:37
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answered by savvyd 3
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Sounds like you are holding a lot of hostility towards your ex husband. Who is to say where the child is best to be at, as long as they are in a loving, stable environment. I don't believe that you have to married to provide that nor does it make it a bad influence. I am a step father to a divorced child, he is currently 8 years old. I would hope that the love we give him, the stability and all that we would offer would want him to stay home with us. But children are torn between both parents and they have a great amount of love for both. I think its important to have a open relationship with both, however with that said. If our son decided he wanted to live with his father then we would have a open communication about it. I know right now, he is in the correct home and will continue to be so.
2006-08-29 01:03:44
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answered by William L 3
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Depends...........on what the situation is really. Based on any situation the child should view the parent on his/her own views and take it from there, and not let the other parent brainwash or push the child into thinking that the other parent is this horrible person. Which they may be, but the child should base that on his/her own opinion.
If the other parent is bashing the other parent that left them to the child, it might be that it doesnt matter who divorced who, is the actions and behavoir of the bashing parent that may in the end, make the child not like them.
Child should base it on his/her opinion and not let others try to change that or change it into the opinion another person wants it to be.
2006-08-29 01:03:22
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answered by feel_n_learn 3
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I don't think it is up to the child on what happens to the adults. Yes it may affect them when parents get divorced but when they grow up that means being grown up and after having a break up experience then they may realize that sometimes things just don't work out between people and so as long as the child was being taken care of and not left behind by one of the parents then no the child should still love the parents no matter what decisions they have made in their adulthood.
2006-08-29 09:49:13
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answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2
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I am very concerned for your children.
You need help and quickly.
You need to accept that you are divorced. You now have a new relationship with your children's father. Your job is to present their father as being as important and valuable as you are to your children. His job is to do the same for you. This is what is right for your children.
You do not appear to realise that you are possibly alienating the children against their father. This can have serious life time consequences for your children and also for your future realtionship with them.
In your current state of mind the children would be better off spending more time in their father's care.
You don't seem to realise that the approach you are taking will quite likley mean that your children will tell you where to go when they are much older.
2006-08-29 01:59:21
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answered by Thorburn 5
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wow... you need some councelling to help you understand that you are divorced! I believe in the sanctity of marriage, but you , my friend, are positively dillussional! How dare you even suggest your children should risk a relationship with their father just because you are in denial as to the status of your relationship with your EX- husband! You have some serious problems and your constant rantings (in this post and in others) that your ex husband is your "ordained God given soulmate" is a sign that you need help NOW!!!!
2006-08-29 02:30:55
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answered by lila 2
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You keep going oon about God but forgot the obey your parents thing hmmm.
2006-08-29 01:37:47
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answered by lol_des 4
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its totally up to your kids what they think of there father its not your choice to tell them anything let them see for them selves. not only thatDONT EVER TALK BAD ABOUT THE FATHER INFRONT OF THE KIDS THAT MIGHT HURT THEM BUT THEY SURE AS hELL WONT TELL YOU. NO KID AS TO TALK TO EATHER ONE OF YOU IF THEY DONT REALLY WANT TOO. BECUASE WHEN THEY ARE 17 THEY CAN TELL YOU GUYS TO KISS THERE *** AND JUST MOVE AWAY AND YOU WONT SEE THEM AGAIN.
2006-08-29 02:05:43
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answered by the wonderer 1
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