I'm 18 years old and in love with a married woman who is 5 years older than I. I've love her for a year now but have not been able to talk with her much to know her feelings towards me. I know this may be a hopeless case for me, but I can't get her out of my mind because I want her in my life so desperately. Please, I'm asking for suggestions on what I should do
2006-08-28 17:37:54 · 18 answers · asked by lovehurts_maddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to her so he will know your real feelings. Let her know. But see, she is married and maybe she has kids. Can you take it by your conscience if her marriage will be destroy? You are young, go find single ladies. Good luck
2006-08-28 17:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Vixen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You fell in love with a 22 year old married woman when you were 17? And you haven't been able to get her out of your mind?
That's rubbish!
You are still much too young to be mooning around like this, especially over a married woman who has not encouraged you and hasn't talked with you. You're building up something in your mind that is, firstly, unhealthy and secondly, is preventing you from normal relationships a guy your age should be seeking.
If you can't walk away by yourself, get some professional help, because otherwise you are going to waste some of the most important years of your life.
You know what you want is wrong. You know you shouldn't even be thinking about a married woman.
You know you can't break up a marriage.
So quit dramatizing yourself and get on with your life.
2006-08-28 17:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you are obsessed with someone who doesn't know you are alive and is committed to someone else, so I'm thinking you are using her to avoid a relationship with someone you might actually have to interact with.
Get off the computer and take up something physical to get your mind off this person because you have no right to complicate her life at all.
Life is scary, intimacy is scary and taking the chance that you will be hurt is scary. Welcome to the world the rest of us live in. Get involved in something you have an interest in, and chances will be that there will be girls there who are also interested in that very same thing. That is way to have something in common to communicate about. Communication is the beginning of every relationship.
Good luck and get going.
2006-08-28 17:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Situation is hopless and the future is dark. This sort of relationship will take you nowhere. Stop right here. You are too young in age. There is no real love, all is infatuation. Pl. come back to your senes and soend your energies and time usefully somewhere else.
2006-08-28 17:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rajesh G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's seeing you behind her husbands back, you don't think she'll do the same thing to you with someone else. Move on and find someone single who can go out in public with you and not be afraid of being seen and to meet your friends and family.
2006-08-28 18:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by c k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's infatuation. Get over it. Take a shower, maybe it helps if you picture her when she is old, very old.
If you like older women, find one who is not married. You are heading into trouble, big time.
2006-08-28 18:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all is the 23 year old girl divorced or still married i think u can still date her being sneaky and if shes married don't let her husband find out! and keep on dating
2006-08-28 17:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Summi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Little boy, trust me...you do not want to mess with HER husband. She is OFF the market...and you are TOO young to play with matches. Unless you want a horrible end to your pathetic life...stay away from her little boy.
2006-08-28 17:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please go on,this will come to nothing but heart ache for you.I know it will be hard to do but if you love her as you say you do you wont do anything to mess up her marriage,sometimes you have to love someone enough to let them go.
2006-08-29 02:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well do u know if she loves u back and if she dose is she willing to leave him for beacuase if she doesnt then you might wanna try to get over her it will be hard but at least u wont get hurt
2006-08-28 17:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋