I am a gay male 16 years, and recently moved schools, and there is this guy, who is gay, and is so hot, and he keeps staring at me all day, should I fall for him? He keeps trying to talk to me, but I really want to focus on my studies, I get good grades, and don't know if I would still if I were dating someone. I need some advice, I know we only live once, but is it worth it?
2006-08-28 17:19:53 · 22 answers · asked by Starcraft 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey man there are a lot of loose canons on this site. Make sure you have ground rules before you start any relationship whether your 16 or 26. Even if the ground rules are just for you to know, so that if he wants to step outside them you still know where your going, chat to him sometime about whatever, but make it very clear to him that you want to focus on your studies as a priority so that you can have a successful career later on. Is he the same age as you? if so what are his grades like? What I'm saying is don't stuff you future life up for a dillydally at this stage of your life, make sure you plan properly.
2006-08-28 19:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Classic issue-- studies vs relationships.
Many people (teenagers primarily) believe high school is so difficult-- but what truly makes it difficult are the little social complexities that occupy your mind and time. Truthfully, if you subtract the stress of a social life, then the schooling part isn't as hard as many claim it is.
Personally, I've gone for the guy a couple of times-- it's not worth it generally. You might feel attracted now, but if it doesn't work out, and your grades drop, woww, you'd feel like ****. Regret all the time you spent with him. Not worth it at this age. Teenage love never lasts anyway.
But... in your situation... i'm not trying to stereotype or anything, but perhaps it'd be nice to "connect" with someone who is also gay. Moving is already a tough transition as it is, so perhaps knowing someone who's also gay will make networking easier? I say... just talk to him. It doesn't necessarily mean you'll "fall" for him or anything... for now, focus on your studies because once you screw up your grades, it's over. But relationships come and go all the time-- especially during your teen years-- and are not worth ruining your life over.
I suppose... in short, just... get to know him. If you think he's the one, then it's not for me to say whether or not it's worth it, because only you can be the judge of his worth. But don't bank on falling in love and living with him for the rest of your lives-- sometimes, when people (myself included) are infatuated... they believe that no matter what happens, it'll be fine because they'll always have *that special person* in their lives-- they forget all about the other intricacies of life. But once that illusion is gone... they end up feeling like an idiot and mourning over the lost time spent pining after someone that wasn't *the one*.
Hopefully that helps you a bit. Not sure where I went with this though... kind of just spoke in circles, relating back to my own sorry love-life (because yeah, I regret wasting some time on some guys who turned out to be... a waste of time)... but i'm hoping this helps you with your situation.
2006-08-28 18:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Zyxxin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is hot and gay, then what are you asking this question for. If you are doing that well in school then there must be a way to be with him AND do your studies AND still get good grades. Who knows, he might be a good study partner. I would lay out some ground rules and then no holds barred. But, for god's sake talk to him.
2006-08-28 18:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by notoutyet72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and fall for him. As for balancing studies and personal interests, well, your whole work life is going to be about that, so you might as well get started now! LOL I wish I had had such a choice when I was sixteen. You bet I would choose getting into a mess over being single! Good luck!
2006-08-28 17:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey slow down, so when you automatically meet him, he's your new boyfriend? I tell you this gay guys need gay friends, become buddies and explore what teenagers do, look for love, Enjoying the year.
2006-08-28 17:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if it is worth it. But would it hurt to at least talk to the guy? You may find a new best friend, or more!
2006-08-28 17:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by feather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think of your future first. Grades mean alot. Perhaps after studying or on the weekends you could get together. Pace yourself where studies come first and dating second.
2006-08-28 17:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, yes, you should talk to him atleast, and of course this will do something to your school work, but your young, your supposed to learn how to balance school and a romance, so when you realize that your slipping in school, just focus more on it when you and him arn't doing anything, it teaches you time managment
2006-08-28 20:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to not at least make friends with this boy. You obviously have much in common. It is not easy being a gay teen, so networking is key to your happiness.
2006-08-28 17:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tina K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go for the guy...beingin love or even just liking someone and being in a relationship like that just makesyou happier..i think it might do the complete opposite of wfhat you think..i think it might help! mayb eu need a guy like this to come intoyour life. good luck man!!!!!
2006-08-28 17:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋