please can someone help? my friends dont like each other and they always try to down play each other to me .always trien to get me mad saing how one might have done something or comment on there clothes or job just alway talkin crap about each other its so bad i cant even go out with more than 1 or 2 friends at a time and even that is sometimes hard.
2006-08-28 17:14:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your friends should settle the issue by themselved. If they don't like each other, you can't do anything about it. It's way beyond your powers.
However, to avoid ugly moments in happening, try scheduling a different girlfriend time for both of them. They are both your friends, so they will understand if you need to be either one of them at different occassions, but not both at the same time.
Last, you could at least try talking to both of them. The three of you could talk. Ask them what pisses them off of each other. Talking could help.
2006-08-28 17:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but you have tolerated this gossip! I would tell them that you love them for them and don't feel like it is fair to bring up things that just make you feel uncomfortable, tell them that you are too good of a friend to let anyone put them down and you would appreciate if they would show you the same respect.
Let them know that your not forcing them to like all your friends but that you won't listen to the back biting either, so come up with a new subject or to call you when they do!
Good luck!
2006-08-29 00:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as though they aren't really good friends at all. Honestly? Immaturity could be a good explanation!
2006-08-29 00:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your "friends" that if they don't learn to get along, they'll lose out on even another friend -- you. You don't need to be the rope in their little tug-o-war.
2006-08-29 00:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Duende71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them and get new friends. It's not very 'friendly' of them to treat you like that.
2006-08-29 00:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL,YOU NEED TO JUST BE STRIAGHT UP I HAD THIS SAME PROBLEM I LET THEM KNOW WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER IT'S ABOUT US HAVING FUN AND NO DRAMA AND IF THEY HAD SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT OR TO THE OTHER PERSON THEY NEED TO GO TO THAT OTHER PERSON THIS REALLY WORKS
2006-08-29 00:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you will no longer be the mediator in there friendships.
2006-08-29 00:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to call someone a friend now days most people we call friends are not such. choose them wisely
2006-08-29 00:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better ignore these kind of friends.
2006-08-29 00:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell each one of them separetly; how you feel.
2006-08-29 00:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by hi there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋