I'm considering breaking off the friendship with one of my very close friends. We both went out for 17 months with each other and had no problems in our relationship. I broke it off with him because I wasn't so sure I didn't want to be with him anymore. He didn't talk to me for 5 months because he was so hurt by me ending the relationship. We finally got back into contact with each other on July 13 (about a month and a half from today). Everytime we talk, I feel really happy. He's such a sweet guy.
For some reason, I'm getting this joy from the thought of getting rid of him as a friend. We don't ever fight about anything and are in a healthy relationship.
I keep thinking so negatively about him about things he's never did to me. I keep thinking he raped me, abused me, hit me. In reality, I know he'd never do that. He's not the type of person to harm anyone, verbally or physically.
When I think about him positively, I just get so sad. And I've noticed that's with anything now.
2006-08-28 17:03:20 · 9 answers · asked by mango lover. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For example, when I lost my cell phone today, I got so happy. When people yell at me, I get so happy....and when people tell me they're suffering, I get happy. Of course, I still show sympathy and try and help them in anyway possible.
...I just don't get why I'd want to end it all with him. I have good conversations with him, I enjoy having him over. It's when I don't talk to him I get thoughts like," You should end the friendship." Or," That was boring...that was stupid. GOSH HE'S SO STUPID."
I don't want to get joy from it.
Can someone please help me or figure out why I'm having these thoughts? I think I might be depressed or something...
I know in my heart I still care about this boy. He's always been there for me and he's such a positive influence in my life.
Should I just let this phase pass in my life?
I honestly don't have a reason to end the friendship. I'm making up excuses and unnecessary drama in my head for no good reason and for my own pure entertainment.
2006-08-28 17:07:38 · update #1
I'm already in therapy...well...I was. I don't get covered for anymore sessions. Nothing seems to help. D:
2006-08-28 17:09:42 · update #2
We were best friends before we went out...and I really regretted breaking up with him. I'm just afraid when I do break off the friendship with him, I'll regret it. And I won't get the second chance I have now.
2006-08-28 17:14:45 · update #3
if you truly like him but derive pleasure from hurting him, something's wrong psychologically
leave him and let him be happy
2006-08-28 17:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this poor undeserving guy alone - your drama & unhealthiness honestly just isn't fair is it? If he is such a sweet guy why don't you leave him alone and let him heal, let him find someone who will appreciate him? Maybe your sadness is a sign that you need to heal as well - leave others out of it until you do.
2006-08-28 17:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by JeyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says it's a healthy relationship? I think you need to seek therapy before you hurt your "best" friend for no apparent reason.
2006-08-28 17:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant afford the therapy, please read some books. And yes, be a friend and let this guy go. You have some issues you need to deal with before you can be friends with anyone.
2006-08-28 17:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by elenanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better seek mental help and the sooner the better. Before you start believing these fantasies and getting innocent people in trouble.
2006-08-28 17:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get rid of him! That's the kind of friend you need in your life. In fact, you should go out with him again.
2006-08-28 17:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to end the friendship just tell him that you can't be his friend because of the dating history.
2006-08-28 17:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should break your relation ship with him becuase he hasnt done anything wrong AND YOU WILL REGREAT IT if you do!
but what you do need is some phyciactric help
2006-08-28 17:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Classic Couture 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I farted
2006-08-28 17:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by toooextreeeme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋