friends with benefits!!?

Question

have you had a friend with benefits?how long? did it ruin your friendship?was it weird?

Answer 1

The best option ever..

Postpone relationships for a while..

:-)

Answer 2

Friends with benefits - does not really work. As long as you are human, you judge. You look and like certain things, dislike certain things. If you can just be an animal, maybe the FWB will work. But humans think, reason and it also involves emotions. If there is strong chemistry, it leads to possession and love. It leads to being there for each other. Humans are made that way - monogamous. That is why other spouses (in other cultures) are always not happy when their husband chooses the better spouse (look Jacob and Rachel & Leah in the Bible) *Jacob like Rachel more than Leah.) My point, is that friends with benefits (I have heard) but have not really seen it work. It can work the bed part, but not the emotional part - that is a rollercoaster, sometimes a beetle bug car, depends who's driving and if u both are in it at the same wavelength.

Answer 3

Not to be judgemental or anything, but friends with benefits is always a bad idea. It's just not healthy to use each other for sex, sex is for committed relationships and marriages. Plus, it will become weird if one of you develop feelings for the other, and it could definitely ruin a friendship.

Answer 4

I've got a few of those - the thing is, don't act too possessive, and be cool about it. I don't like it when it turns into 'friends with benefits with games attached' and I hate it when the expectations and feelings get in the way of a good time - makes it less 'friends with benefits' and more 'terrible waste of time without benefits'.

Answer 5

I had a friend with benefits and it lasted 3 years. It was far from weird, you just have to be honest with each other from the start and not jealous of each others desire to be with others. Keep it safe and clean and you should have no problem.

Answer 6

It depends on you if it'll ruin your friendship or be weird. For most people, it seems to develop some weirdness for one side or the other, if done long-term, so you should always be cautious.

Answer 7

there is no such thing as friends with benefits. when two friends who have had no previous romantic relaionship, decide to have sex, they are now involved with each other whether they admit it or not. if one person decides to go out on a date with someone else, the other person is constantly wondering if they slept with or made out with their date. So that then leads to putting restrictions on what can be done with other people, whether it is out of jealousy or not wanting to contract an std. and it is weird to be around them, especially in social settigs with other people when you or you partner decide to flirt with someone else. your friendship will never be the same and is inevitibly doomed.

Answer 8

yeah I did once and it was my biggest mistake because when I did that I put our friendship on the line and when the freindship and benefits ended I lost my friend. its best to be a freind because when you bring sex in the relationship eveything starts to change! ( don't do it because eventually one of you will catch feelings and I say if you good enough to be a friend and good enough to **** then why not be his girl?)

Answer 9

You really can't be friends after that. It does become really weird. I think that no matter what people tell themselves, sex doesn't come without emotions. If/When you move on to a guy that IS good enough, it might hurt his feelings and vice versa.

Answer 10

As long as you know that's all you want it's fine. If one of you wants more and the other doesn't then you have a problem and it gets weird.

Answer 11

i would never have a friend with benefits it might complicate things and i dont want to take that risk