did you loose your friendship?is this still going on? for how long? i'm curious if something like this has a chance in the world of not ruining the friendship
2006-08-28 16:55:18 · 18 answers · asked by anna c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can predict that most of the people who respond will say this doesn't work, and isn't a very good idea. For me it's been the perfect arrangement. I'm at a point in my life that a relationship is not what I'm looking for. And I enjoy sex....I don't want to put it on the shelf until I'm involved in a relationship. I'm also not interested in one night stands.....or sleeping around. My
" F. buddy" a great friend.....we we're friends before our arrangement, and I believe we continue to be friends after. I trust him, and I care about him. So far, this has worked for about 5 months. But you have to be careful......there is a real chance for someone to be hurt if they develop romantic feelings. This is not for everyone. You need to be on the same page, and understand exactly what your willing to share. I can tell you there is a real sexual freedom with this......you more willing to do and try things that you may have considered "off limits" with a person your involved in a traditional relationship with. I have no doubt that I'll attract some negative comments for my stand.....and if your not discreet, you'll also be judged. So keep that in mind. Personally.....I say go for it. Times have changed....and woman can enjoy active sex lives too......just be honest with yourself/and your friend in what your looking for.
2006-08-28 17:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure I have had a friendship with benefits. It lasted a few years.
we were best friends but not lovers.we knew all about each other and made an agreement that if we had a need or desire we would come to eachother only. It worked out great for a while.
ultimately jealousy sets in and it will in the long run ruin the friendship. we still talk today but he is not my best friend any more. I lost my trust in him when he went out and got envolved in illegal drugs.
honestly the best relationship I have had in my life were the ones with no benefits. We had to bond emotionaly first then the benefits took place later. I have had a best friend for 20 years now and still have had no benefits as you put it with him. I would give my life for this man that is how much I value his friendship.
2006-08-28 18:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's kinda fun. I have a fwb right now..we see each other atleast 3-4 times a week, we do have benefits but if we stopped seeing each other, no one gets hurt because there was no feelings to start with. No, were still friends. Yea, its been going on for maybe 1-2 months. It shouldnt ruin the friendship.
2006-09-04 03:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mandee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had a " f. buddy " actually he was more than that he was a good friend for a long time I trusted him and we had some of the best sex I ever had. Eventually due to serious relationships on both sides it of course had to end but I have never regretted it . We dont see each other often but are still friends.
I think as long as you are both very clear about what you want and what the other expects it can be great for sex starved singles. Better than one night stands or vibrators.
2006-09-02 15:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first real boyfriend was my friend w/benefits. I was fun, but anytime I had another boyfriend he would want to 'hang out'. Or if he had a girlfriend I would suggest we 'go do something'. So we ruined each others relationships. That made it not so fun. We stayed friends even after he went to college and I joined the military. The only reason we don't talk now is because for one he became a huge pothead and two even after he knew I was married he was trying to get me to go 'hang out'.
2006-09-05 12:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say it I have had friends with benefits. Things never worked out though. One guy was just in it to get in my pants seeing as how I have a really good reputation for priding myself on being the good girl the one that never takes it far. The second well he was just a playa that wanted to have a little fun over the summer. Both of thems fun was very short lived.
2006-09-04 07:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're now married. We took each other as we were (hurting, not wanting to be with anyone else) we just wanted to get away from the whole dating scene, not wanting to get hurt again. We became friends, then best friends, then best friends with benifits, then lovers, then partners, the husband and wife. Just watch it grow, give it (the relationship) a chance to go through the stages. Each stage has it's own set of difficulties and issues. Talk it out...always talk it out, not fight and run away.
2006-08-28 17:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Blessed B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it worked well for us. Each situation is different, but I think alot is how YOU deal with it, to not ruin the friendship.
2006-09-04 14:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 00:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by jenniffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a few friends with benefits...It didn't go well. Eventually I wanted more and they still didn't and that's usually the case and when they don't want more, you tend to continue sleeping with them just to keep them there, but not the way you want them to be. It didn't turn out good, but in a way we are still cool, just not good friends like we used to be.
2006-08-28 16:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋