Why is there so much hate in the Black community?

Question

now is the time to come together. why are we hatin on each other what is that. men and the women hatin each other. light and dark hatin. what is this? why cant we just get along. this is why other races claim to hate us. we cant even love each other and some ourselves. we need to seriously change this!

Answer 1

I agree!!! I think there's so much hate in the "black" community because it's something that's been embedded in us from our grandmothers, aunts, fathers and sometimes our mothers! I say this, because how many times have you been compared to all your cousins and sometimes sisters by your grandmother, aunts, and mother? They say things around little girls like, "So and so got that "good" hair" or "So and so is just too dark"! Many times I was mistreated by some of my cousins when I was little because they were either being told or overheard from their mother that "Bonnie got that "good" hair!" over and over again, and to make matters worse, my own grandmother would treat me bad because I was a few shades darker than the rest of my cousins! This is where all the hatred starts...it starts at home, and then when you go to school you have so many "black" girls competing against one another or mistreating one another because of their hair texture and the shade of their skin, not realizing that they themselves are "black."

Then you have the "black" guys who help aide in the hatred between black girls and black guys, this happens more at school though, you have the black boys calling the black girls "blacky", and because of this the girls get a complex about their skin color and start hating themselves; and the lighter skinned sisters, start joking the darker skinned sisters just the same and the darker skinned sisters joke the lighter skinned sisters, stating that they think their "white" or are "trying to act white"...I don't know how many times I've witnessed this when I was in elementary school and middle school, many times girls would be crying because someone who they thought was their friend betrayed them....that's another thing,

There's more hate in the black community because some of us think that the only way we'll be accepted is if we abuse our bodies by sleeping with our best friend's boyfriends; and some black guys are so misguided that they think that the only way they can prove their maleness is if they can sleep with their girlfriend's friends, sisters, and sometimes mothers...it's all in the up-bringing on how our older family members treated us, what they portrayed to us through their examples, and some of us break that cycle and some of us continue in it....overall I think it's a lack of security...if we were secured when we were younger, being having both parents at home who were supportive, then we wouldn't have this problem of hate in the community.

The black men are so pressured on a daily basis and many times they keep repeating in their heads that "I have to be a better man than my father" or something similar to that, so because they have their wives, children, girlfriends, and mothers (basically all the loves in their lives) looking to them for everything, they are pressured to make ends meet by any means necessary so that their families can survive; black men don't do mischief for nothing, I'm not condoning the violence, because there's no excuse to being violent there are other ways, but I understand if that black guy has to do what he has to do to provide for his...and this is another reason why there is so much violence and animosity in the black community, frustration and the need to survive helps aide in such hatred in the black community.

That's all I can say for right now!

Answer 2

I am a baby boomer and when I was in High School. We were really into the whole concept to being color blind. And I thought that it was really working. We were all very open minded with each other and when I see people from my old high school which was about 30% black 10% Latino and the rest various palefaces(I don't like being called "white") we all still feel the same way.

I thought that the "N" word was going to go extinct. You almost never heard it. It seems like some time in the 80's or 90's somewhere everybody started throwing their ethnicity in each others faces. I could tell it was going to get ugly when it started and stayed away, and it did, it went from I'm proud of my group, to my group is better than yours, and then degraded into you owe us-no we don't kind of stuff.

Then people started telling African Americans how hated and persecuted they were all the time and they started getting angry about it and others started getting mad back at the angry people and it's just all gone downhill. I am very sad that this has come about.

My kids even overheard a little boy tell his friends that we were not going to be helpful to them because we were white folks!

I hope we can turn this around again!

Answer 3

I'm going to put it like this. Hurt people hurt people. where I work is one of the simplest jobs in the world. but they put pressure on you to do it fast, folks come in there and out in a NY minute and this is Alabama! and the conversation on folks is always negative despite the fact that the majority of these ladies have someone at home; backbiting and trash talking just ain't for me, and because of the animosity, we will not move forward.

Answer 4

I have observed that too, but it's not so much "hatin" of each other, but of authority....especially by the younger people.

Answer 5

HATE!!!! is in every community it's not just in the colored community it's in every community .BUT! I AGREE WITH YOU BIG TIME IF WE HAD MORE LOVE TOWARDS EACH OTHER THAT WOULD BE A START TO A BETTER FUTURE FOR ALL NATIONALITIES ! BUT YOU ARE RIGHT ON ANOTHER THING IF WE BLACKS WOULD STOP HAVING SO MUCH HATE TOWARDS EACH OTHER WE WOULD BE BETTER OFF AN OTHER NATIONALITIES WOULD NOT CLAIM TA HATE US SO YOU ARE RIGHT! MUCH LOVE AN GOD BLESS.

Answer 6

I totally agree we need to unite together and help each other and rise up and show the world how great we can be. We are not just rappers and jailbirds. We are strong, intelligent people. You're right, we need to take action now!

Answer 7

Honey, there is hate in every community. All people have a hard time getting along. In spite of our gregarious nature, we are our own worst enemies. Human relations is a complicated thing. History, religion, status, finance and socialization all play into it.

Answer 8

I think it is time to stop hating and above all to stop picking on black people. We are all quilty! We need to come together in love for each other.

Answer 9

part of my family is black. i have been hated on by all 3 of my races for not being pure blood. cause i picked it. then i get hated on for not loving my black brothers! i got no respect for the black man. well i'm GAY! my black sisters hatin on me cause i smile almost all the time and don't smoke weed so i'm simple. well angel, i'm still open to friends. i'm still gay and i still smile almost all the time and i still don't smoke weed. the brown skinned community has cast me out. so out i'll stay till folks chill out on all the hate.
i can't answer why. i don't understand at all. BTW color blind is not the answer. we should see color of skin and celebrate diferences and have respect for those diferences.

Answer 10

hate is embedded within a person, reguardless of color, NOT THE WHOLE COMMUNITY. focus on the positive, maybe there is something you can do in your community to solve the problem of a few disfunctional individuals