I've been with a few lads but never really clicked with any of them, even if they were good looking! I really like one of my friends but he's straight. He's really attractive and has been with lots of women, but earlier in the year I saw a video of him on a friend's phone and he was saying he was bi-curious and wondered what it'd be like with a man, but didn't know if he'd ever try it. To meet you'd think he was gay, everyone does, it's a common mistake to make! I've really fancied him since Christmas but he doesn't know obviously!! He knows I'm gay and we go out everywhere together.
I just want to know one thing... How to get over him??!! It's probably just a silly crush but I still get jealous when he's with his 'women'. I'm like a love sick teenager! lol. Do you think I'd forget about him in 'that' way if I went with a few blokes? I keep turning blokes down just cos I want to spend my time with this friend.
2006-08-28 16:32:11 · 18 answers · asked by ©Wayne© 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Probably the same reason why I tend to be attracted to straight girls. Either we are always after what we can't have, or life just sucks that way! Probably a bit of both.
Having been in this situation myself on more than one occasion, I would advise you to distance yourself from him and go out on the gay scene a bit more. I know that sounds harsh, but if you carry on spending time with him, you will just feel worse and worse. If your jealousy gets the better of you, you might lose him as a friend too. If he is going to experiment with guys, he will do so in his own time, but that doesn't mean he will necessarily want to experiment with you, but if you pester him too much now, you definitely will ruin your chances.
There are thousands of men out there who will want you, so in the mean time, why not go and perfect your lovin' with them. You might find you forget all about him............ good luck x x
2006-08-28 17:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty Tough Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aaah unrequited love. Been there. Painful isn't it? I once shared a flat with a straight guy, who I was besotted with and he knew it. We never did anything and it killed me that I should be so weak kneed about him.
Don't pass up the opportunity with someone else on a no hoper. He knows you're gay and didn't send you the bi-curious confession. You could tell him how you feel and that you think it would be better if you spent less time together - because of how it makes you feel.
That'll clear the air between you and (although highly unlikely) might force his hand. But tell me, would it be worth losing his friendship over a one-off, anyway?
2006-08-28 21:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for a start man your gaydar isn't working properly, or its gone rusty whilst your dreaming over this hottie, man whilst you wondering how you will get over him well for a start just say to your self "f**k that" and get on with your life. Remember you will never forget your first love never. Get out there and meet a few hotties and fall in love about 10 times before you find Mr right and you never know in 5 years time this guy might have turned fully gay and meet you and want you for ever. good luck
2006-08-28 19:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people covered it already in where to look and where to hang out, but you said it yourself, you are in HIgh School. The last thing you need right now is to be looking for love. Look for a fun relationship to go out and have a good time with. Worry about finding the love of your life after you are settled down and in a career, much easier that way. Definately have fun along the way, try out th different scenes and see what you like. SOmeone suggested thge bear scene, also check out the leather scene as well. I am guesing that the drag/tranny scene is not what you are looking for, but hey, you never know. Be young, have fun, but be safe while doing it.
2016-03-26 23:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To die for! I went thru that with my best friend, you need to look around force yourself not to focus only on this guy. Since he knows you're gay and he's Bi and hasnt made a move to you that tells you something. Take a deeep breath, and realize you got yourself a good friend thats open to tell you whatever, and enjoys your company, just accept that. Round up your girlfriends and hit the bars, hell yeah!!
2006-08-28 16:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what my therapist told me: I want you to think really hard about the male figure in your life that you always wanted love from and never got. Have that picture in your mind? OK, well what you're doing (subconsciously) is craving that person's love through other straight guys that are as incapable of giving it to you as the first guy was.
His suggestion for me was to think of guy#1 (in my case it was one of my brothers) and imagine his face on any straight guy I found myself attracted to.
This really worked for me.... only being attracted to straight guys is a recipe for pain.... I hope this helps you and if it doesnt fit your scenario, I hope you'll find whatever does. Good luck to you!
2006-08-28 18:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Keezee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they're so hot, many of them. Johnny Depp for example, what a hottie. Oh and BTW go and have a few encounters with your mates they'll help ya forget.
2006-08-28 16:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur problem is that ur looking for the wrong kind of gay man.....not every gay man is effeminate, you need to look for a more muscline gay man. I am attracted to both. and trust me we all get over the ones we think we love. you just need to remember the ones who dont love back dont deserve your love!
2006-08-28 16:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by kaikai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all but it don't make us forget. Try to move on and I'm sure the pieces will fall into place
2006-08-28 16:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Super 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else. there's no other way out. when u focus on another person, u will get over it.
and trust me, u will not want to have any feeling for straight guys again. u will want to be with someone who loves u back.
2006-08-28 21:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋