Should marriage not be entered into lightly ?

Question

Our society could care less concerning marriage to be until death. Hey ONCE married , ALWAYS married until death. A vow is a vow. Marriage should not be entered into lightly because God takes vows very seriously so we should do the same. But people change marriages like they change their socks these days. Lifetime commitment means nothing anymore and it is great sadness. The problem is people only see what they're prepared to. That is why our country is how what it is today. Like they said , you reap what you sow. I feel sorry for the children from divorce , they won't be the same because that person who is getting the divorce could care less for them and only looking out for number 1 ....... being selfness. People should go back to their ordained marriages God gave them in the first place and take their vows seriously. God is NOT a God of compromise. I want to help people here to see the real truth so I will conture to make my point across. Some people do agree with me & that is good

Answer 1

I totally agree with you. I hope other people get your message and return to the vows of "Holy matrimony"

Answer 2

Apart from the fact that there would be no population growth, there are a lot of problems with this idea. I'm not sure what it's trying to solve except for you to get laid a lot. You could do this now by the way but would be seen as a loser if you were on your 15th wife, I think. You are making a lot of assumptions here: 1, that having kids is not what some people want 2. that breaking up is easy to do 3, that people could afford this 4. what if you found Miss Right? 5. stable marriages make people happier - especially men 6. By the 15th wife how will you remember anything about her - even her name? The keeping up with the Jones idea is a good one to get rid of, though.

Answer 3

Yeah, Go Ahead, And Enter It Lightly, But Enter Into Divorce Lightyly Too!!!

Answer 4

How long have you been married?

It is very easy to pass a judgement on people, until the shoe is on the other foot.

Marriage should not be taken lightly. There are not only 2 people, but 2 families involved and if there are children involved, it is a whole different deal.

But, marriage is a 3-legged race. One can be very good and committed, but if the other is not as serious or committed, you can never finish that race.

What happens when people get married very young and don't themselves who they are. How can they make someone else happy?

What happens in countries, where young people have to enter marriages that are arranged and don't have a choice?

What happens to people who are married and love their spouses but are physically or emotionally abused?

If you believe in God, don't pass judgement on anyone. HE doesn't, so why do you?

Answer 5

I agree with you June, but also remember what the Bible says also: If you are in a marriage and the unbelieving spouse wants out, then you let them go. For some of the other answers I have read, that doesn't mean that all abused spouses (men and women) should go back to their abusers, and take a chance on being killed. It means that if you can work out the problems in the marriage, then you should. Keep in mind that the marriage situation we are talking about is for two people who believe and love the Lord. People who do not share our Christian faith are not truly bound to the covenant, because they do not know Christ, but if they choose to stay, they are covered by your blessing a prayers, with hopes that they will finally know God. You are correct, God is not a God of compromise, and a lot of people (some that even claim to be Christians) don't like to hear that sometimes. Conitnue on being bold for the Master.

Answer 6

I agree that marriage should not be entered into lightly but the fact of using God as an excuse for that isn't exactly right. It should be in respect for the other person and the people around. It can destroy a person when the person they thought would be with them until death now says they don't care. People should respect their fellow humans more.

Answer 7

What do you think? Obviously you are aware that it's all too easy to get married and all too easy to get divorced. Both need to be extremely difficult. Marriage is difficult. It would help one prepare for the difficulties if one had to overcome difficulties to get married. That would teach people communications and problem solving skills (if done right) that might help them avoid divorce. One problem is that pretty much all the states these days allow "no fault" divorce. If you had to come up with a real reason for the divorce AND PROVE IT before you got one we'd have less problems. But the "no fault" divorce was championed by lawyers with dollar signs in their eyes as making divorce easy brings in a lot of money to divorce attorneys. If you believe in God, then saying I DO is a promise before GOD that you will stay with & love the person you are marrying FOREVER. If you don't believe in God then you're still making that promise. In fact I'm basically of the opinion that nobody gets a divorce unless someone goes to jail - about the only valid reasons for divorce would be things like one person abused the other or the kids, or they were committing serious crimes of some other type. Abandonment may need to stay in there but still the person who gets charged & proven for abandonment should go to jail for it, I think, at least if there are children involved.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Darling, I appreciate your views. I shared them until I also read if the unbelieving spouse departs...LET THEM GO...for how can light fellowship with darkness. For God has called you to live in peace. I was no longer morally bound to remain in the marriage because of his unfaithfulness and him choosing another woman over me. I have since fallen in love with a Christian man...and BELIEVE me I am carefully pondering marriage. Well, if I do, I will keep my vows. You only can control your OWN actions. What the partner does, well they will be judged for, but I do not believe that God wants us to be miserable. He wants us TO HAVE AND ENJOY LIFE. Marriage is a wonderful thing, and even more so when you are not unequally yoked together.

Answer 10

I took my marriage seriously. "Till death" was a part of the deal for me. Too bad it took 17 years to find out she was not serious about it. She had made up her mind long before she let me in on the decision. Not all marriages are broken because both don't take the vow seriously. It takes two to make a marriage, but it only takes one to wreck it.

There are many of us out here in the world that still really believe in marriage and what it stands for. I, like many others, learn the hard way to really know your partner's position on it before you take the vows.

Answer 11

Amen Sister! You preach it!!! I agree 100%

I have been happily married to my husband for over 5 years. I was a virgin on our wedding night ( 28 years old) We have a wonderful 3 year old son and another child on the way in late Jan.

It is sad!!! The only way we will separate is if one of us dies! He is my husband for life and beyond!