My child's father and I have not spoken in nearly 2 years - just lost touch some how. He is married & I think he (or his wife) resents paying child support. He makes no effort to contact us and sadly its vice versa. Our child is getting older and I just want to bury the hatchet and build some sort of relationship for our child. I just don't know where to start and fear rejection.
2006-08-28 16:21:53 · 6 answers · asked by ask4marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's important you persist in getting your child in it's father's life. For one, you need the father's DNA in case your child develops serious life threatening illnesses. You need to establish paternity with DNA proof positive so your child is protected from his other children when it's time for your child to share in his estate. Don't forget, he may have acquired assets that your child is just as entitled to as is his other children, whether legitimate or illegitimate. More important, your child should know its father so there can be contact in the future when they have children. Have your child draw a picture and send it to him. Include a school picture and phone number. Persist even though his wife will not be pleased. But your children's future is at stake, . . . fight for it.
2006-08-28 16:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are it's not going to happen. My oldest is 10. The last time he saw his father he was 4. I kept the lines of communication, the drama was minimal. He'd joined the service and moved to the opposite coast, got married (she is Drama), yadda yadda.
If you have an address or phone number, go ahead and try to contact him, especially if he's still local. If he doesn't respond, you tried. It's hard on kids, but as they get older (especially if they have a loving parent and possibly step parent around) they realize that for whatever reason he's not around.
Avoid talking bad about him around your child and let him try to communicate as he gets older. Kids do learn quickly though when their affections are misplaced.
Sometimes the wives make it exceedingly difficult.
2006-08-28 16:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me and my ex husband 7 years to buried all the past, last December he came to visit my kids (he haven't seen them in two years) so I was worried to what would I say or do, it was a very weird feeling....then I thought....I'll do it for my kids, and when we saw each other it was like two normal people talking. You should call him and tell him that his child want to talk to him...or better yet ...I don't know how old is your child but you could have him make a drawing and mail it to him, that would be nice and you don't have to say much!! and hopefully he will call you and talk like nothing had happen, I know is hard but... someone has to act like the mature adult
2006-08-28 16:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just call him up and say what you just said to us. i wish you luck, ive been in the same boat...and i tried to keep an open line. i sent pics , letters etc, never got any reply back. it hurts that theres no contact with the kids but at least they know i tried.
2006-08-28 16:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as being rejected. by him i would not waste my time on even worring about him in that aspect. . lifes to short to worry over this matter a real man would never do his child like that in my opion ?
2006-08-28 16:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL NEED TO TALK IF YOU WANNA START AGAIN.
2006-08-28 16:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋