I have heard of some situations where the man doesnt want any kids and when the baby is born they fall in love with it. I am talking about men that held there ground about NOT having kids. again I am NOT going to talk him into it, I would leave before that, I am 40 him 44, together 6.5 years
2006-08-28 15:47:58 · 17 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jez, I wouldn't want children at that age, either! In fact, I AM that age (44) and there is noooooo way I would want to have a child now. My goal is retirement, and that wont happen if I have to send someone to college.
Besides, the older you get the greater your risk of having a baby with a chromosomal abnormality. I wouldn't have the energy needed to raise a special needs child.
Didn't you discuss this issue BEFORE you got married?
If you don't love your husband enough to stay with him WITHOUT a child, you certainly don't love him enough to have a child with him.
That's just my opinion, though. And you know the saying..... opinions are like a**hole*, everyone has one.
Good luck in whatever decision you make.
2006-08-28 15:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the question is? What to do when your husband or b-friend doesn't want kids and you do?
Didn't you know that in the 6.5 years you ve been with him?
I personally would talk to him, and if he says he would rather not, then.......
the thing is-is that your 40 and if you left him for that you would have to start a new relationship which could take a year -at least-then your looking at least another year or two bwfore you get pregnant-which is has more complications than you know for you and the baby
maybe you should of thought of this before you invested so much time in a person that doesn't have the same ideas and concepts as you
I wish you well but do not bring a child into the world when he says no-it must be a mutual agreement
Good luck
2006-08-28 22:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by bulldog lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me. It would be much better to have a baby on your own than with a man who doesn't want a child. Make no mistake: I take family and marriage very seriously, but if having a child is your dream, do NOT put yourself in a situation where you would be arguing about parental rights with someone who doesn't even want your child. It gets really messy. And, I think you already know the answer to your own question: you can't change someone's heart when it comes to children.
2006-08-28 23:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by jive turkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agreed to not have kids in the beginning then getting pregnant would be a betrayal. Either decide you can live with the agreement or leave. Don't play 'it could work out alright' with a third life involved in the entire controversy.
2006-08-28 22:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want a baby and he don't then I think its time you call it quits with him. He is 44 so I think it set that he don't want any. Please do not try to trick him and get pregnant because he may not feel that way. You been with him for 6.5 years move on because I can hear your clock and time is running out
2006-08-28 22:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i are 41 and 43 respectively. we have only been married since july 05. she became pregnant in august 05. i was not sure i would ever have children and came to grips with not having a child. and boom!! a baby boy was put in my arms by the doctor and i fall deeper in love every day. tell him to experience the gift of giving life and he wont regret it. its wonderful and if he has even the smallest of hearts, it will open a whole new world for him. after all, are we not here to make more of us. no excuses of the bad world we live in, make it better!!!!!!!!
2006-08-28 22:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by zman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that...babies are amazing. Do you really want kids? If you do, you should move on before it is too late. You can also adopt or be a foster parent for a while. you can kinda test drive it...Good luck
2006-08-28 23:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he'd wanted kids, he would have known by now.
And "accidentally" getting pregnant is about the worst thing a women can do to a man. Don't even think about it.
2006-08-28 22:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tina K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave It can happen on chance. You should have kids you are not far off from menopause and you really want to make some offspring go for it. If he don't like it he can fly the coop.
2006-08-28 22:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
with you at this age and you want a baby leave you need a baby in your life and i think it might even be good if you both did it would make you guys stronger
2006-08-28 22:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by carolea_lamblin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋