I just am not as happy as I used to be. I want to be out having fun, finishing school, and loving life with friends. It feels as though I can't do those things. I cry alot, and wonder.
2006-08-28 15:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by JC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just gave yourself your own answer. You aren't ready for commitment of this kind. Be kind, explain to your partner what you just said here...and end it. It may seem scary, but the minute you do it you will feel the weight of the world go off your shoulders.
2006-08-28 15:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. Re-think if you even want to be with him. You may care for him and feel bad if you break up, but he may not be the person for you. Maybe you are just bored. Include him in your plans or just have your fun times with your friends. Just because you are engaged doesn't mean you have to do stuff with him all the time. Spread out your plans and time. Do your thing, and also have time for him. You can have fun, finish school, and go discover life on your own--and also have him.
NOW- if you don't like what I have just said, break it off because you don't like him anymore.
It's life, and it is about you.
Good luck.
2006-08-28 22:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to break off the engagement so that in another year or two, you won't become another divorce statistic. Crying alot is the last thing you should be doing when your engaged to a man you love.
2006-08-28 23:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you are not committed. Love is a choice and aparently the emotions you feel are a warning sign that you are not mature enough to marry. This could also be an indication that your needs are not being met in the relationship (school, going out, and isolation). If it feels like you are being controlled in the relationship, then it is time to go. It will turn abusive.
2006-08-28 23:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you two gotten married yet? A four year engagement? Yeah, I'd be rethinking it too! Do what you want and make sure you communicate with him. You only live once right?
2006-08-28 22:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Caffiene Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT go through with the marriage until you figure out if the problem is the relationship or is a depression separate from the relationship!!!!!
2006-08-28 22:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married....you'll be another statistic. If you have to postpone the wedding then do it. Work on the relationship and if it's not fixable.....then move on but don't marry thinking it'll make things better.
2006-08-28 22:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it. Now. If you think it's bad for you now you need to keep in mind that every day you put it off is going to make it worse.
2006-08-28 22:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by intheholycity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NUSt ahce a full life with hobbies and interests. Have your partner join if the partner wants to join activites with you.
2006-08-28 22:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship if it's making you unhappy.
2006-09-01 05:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋