I know everyone does have them....see I struggle on and off with anxiety and depression. Is he gonna be able to handle this? I don't want to give him more than he can handle...should I back out now before he dumps me? Or just pray for the best?
2006-08-28 15:32:53 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him about your problems and see how he deals. If he dumps you on the spot...
HE'S A COMPLETE JERK
2006-08-28 15:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by hmw95 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he cares or loves you he will be there to help you. You should not have to think he is going to dump you or not. Tell you the truth at this point in your life having anxiety and depression you need him to help you cause you cant do it alone. My sister had the same problem but guess what she is now married to the man. Yes I know it's going to be hard but everything will be ok if he cares or loves you. I wish the best for you and your boyfriend and I will pray for the both of you ~Amy~
2006-08-28 15:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the key to any relationship is acceptance and trust. Everyone is not perfect- wether it be anxiety, depression, physical problems- everyone has something to deal with. Why try to spare someone from who you are? Why worry in advance about being dumped? Accept that even with the best of situations, relationships will not work out sometimes, for a variety of reasons- and its better to be yourself and accept and work on the problems you have, than to be afraid of how someone else will react all the time, and maybe cheat yourself out of good experiences or fun.
2006-08-28 15:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have anxiety and depression also so I can totally relate to you. I think the best thing you can do is sit down and talk to your boyfriend about the things you go through. Let him decided if it's to much for him to handle or if he can handle it. There are great guys out there that can be supportive of your needs. But your going to have to be open and honest to make anything work. Best of luck!
2006-08-28 15:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ladybuggg,
you are absolutely right, we all have our little problems and most of them can be fixed. There is a reason why you are depressed and you should talk to your Doctor. There is medication for both depression and anxiety and you should not have to got through this. If you are not doing so, exercise, because it helps with depression as well. Just go to the Doc and be happy and you will.
2006-08-28 15:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you've been together - if he is someone you want to be with long term, then tell him how you feel & about your struggles - at least you'll know if he can handle it. Also, there is help out there for both anxiety & depression (natural medications as well as prescription). Seek help if you need it. There is no shame in needing help. Nobody is perfect.
2006-08-28 15:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by amandey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dance like no one's watching, love like you've never been hurt...
YOU live with it, and you're a lot closer to it than he is; so there's no reason he can't live with it. He should be allowed that choice.
But don't use it as an excuse for bad behavior, either.
Love him, appreciate him and appreciate his good intentions. If he decides to move on, OK, you'll get hurt, but you learn something from every relationship, and its worth the risk.
You're setting yourself up for failure and pushing him away otherwise. You will NEVER have a lasting relationship if you push people away with that rationale.
Stephen Hawking has a wife, and she loves him very much. This leaves you without excuses.
2006-08-28 15:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about your mental problems. If he leaves, he wasn't strong enough for you. That's not your fault or his. It takes a special person to be able to deal with anxiety and depression. I'm there!
When I first starting dating my boyfriend, he wasn't up to some of my friends' standards as far as looks, career, etc.. But I found someone who was willing and able to understand and sympathize with my disorders, and love me even more because of them!
You'll find your man. Give this guy a fair chance! He may be more understanding than you know.
2006-08-28 15:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the chance for him to make up his mind what he wants tell him that you have anxiety and depression troubles. and he will know himself how much he loves you and weather to stay with you or not. And only he will know what he thinks he can and what he wants to handle. If you tell him to bugger off then you will never know what a good thing you could have had together if he wants to stay.
2006-08-28 15:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if your boyfriend really cares for you he will understand that depression and anxiety is something new in both of your lives and not just in your life. see i know how you feel because my ex-boyfriend couldnt handle having a diabetic girlfriend so he dumped me after 2 weeks he was mad because i couldnt eat what people ate at parties and couldnt drink what other people drank so he left me i dicovered he really didnt care cause if he did it wouldnt matter as along i was getting better ......... but any ways yea if he cares for you and ifyou guys love each other he'll understand how to handle it
2006-08-28 15:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide him with information about how you feel. There may be support groups in your area for him to attend also, for himself in dealing with your anxiety and depression. Communication is the key, so express to your partner how you are feeling and what your fears are. Hopefully he will be open minded enough to listen to you and you two can work on these problems together. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-28 15:39:01 · answer #11 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋