Give me some advice on my Husband?

Question

He drinks bout ever day sometimes til he passes out at the table. he tells me he is going to quit and slow down. When he drinks he gets mouthy and can say some mean things (never hits me) He will say how pretty other women look or how good they look in certain out fits. I just need some advice. I do love him alot

Answer 1

Encourage him to go to an AA meeting. It is anonomous and he doesn't have to talk, just show up. He may hear alot of things that will help him. He may also resist your comment and say "no way I'm not going" and then YOU should go to an Al-anon meeting...this is for family's of people with drinking problems. Do this for yourself. They will teach you how to deal with his problem. After a while he may say "gee....if she is going to a meeting because of MY drinking...maybe I'd better look at myself a little closer." He has a disease, and it isn't his fault, but it is is fault if he doesn't seek the treatment that is available.
Here are a couple links to help you find meetings in your area:
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_find_meeting.cfm
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Answer 2

Without change, there is no change . .. . . Think about it. He really isnt strong enough to make a change. Take a stand and make a move. Leave this man and be the one to make a change in this relationship. To leave him doesnt have to mean loosing him too, it can just let him know living like this is not an option anymore and when he also makes a change you can make a Good life together! It would be hard for you to leave and also for him to accept youve gone, but to beleave you love each other to make a change is clearly for the better.

Answer 3

Is he openly admitting to you that he has a drinking problem?
This is important frist step. Most likely he is in denial.
He is an alchoholic. When ever you talk about it, talk about the alchohol, not him. E.G. the alchohol turns him into another person who does XYZ which makes you feel XYZ.
The alchohol will most likely prevent him from changing.
Get yourself along to the local alnon. and tell him he needs to go to AA and/or get treatment for his disease.
You need to use some tough love.

Answer 4

Well, it sounds like if this is working out pretty good for him he has little to no reason to change. Should this behavior become difficult for him to continue, say you take issue to it, he'll be forced to make a choice as to changing or possibly losing you.

Is this the kind of relationship you want to be in for the long haul? You can't change him, but you can change you and your reaction to him - I suggest Al-non - the program for partners of alcoholics.

Answer 5

He is drinking and talking crazy cause he wants to be out in the field playing around but respects you. He is sorry in one respect and appreciative in another. He must come to grips that the grass is not greener on the other side.

Just being curious, are you sure it doesn't have anything to do with your name?????

Answer 6

He needs to go to AA and you need to throw out all the booze in the house. Give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't stop drinking you will leave.

Answer 7

Anything can be worked out, as long as there are no drugs, no physical abuse, and no alcohol abuse. Your guy fits tyhe third category. Unless he starts attending daily AA meeting sna d gets into a substance abuse program asnd conseling, there is no hope. It's solely his decision.

Answer 8

why is it that love makes people lose the ability to use their brains. damn are all you loser who take abuse that insecure? there is someone else out there. stop putting up with the dumbassss. leave moron.

Answer 9

If upu love this guy get him to rehab. He is an acholic

Answer 10

He needs help,if he isnt cheating he will.You dont deserve to live like this.