When I became friends with this girl, we clicked. It was a great friendship for awhile. But very slowly, she seemed to show her true colors. Long story short she's; very selfish, controling, hypocritical, finds things to get upset about, an attention whore, she fabricates stories, only hears what she wants too, & is a spoiled brat that always has to have her way, or no one can be happy. Yet talks about her life as if she's living out of a cardboard box & everything goes 'wrong'. She also loves to use people (as punching bags, etc). So, I start to confront her on this, that does no good. She constantly comes to me to ***** about things, but when i don't tell her what she wants to her, she gets annoyed. So I broke off the friendship for a while. Friends of ours started telling me she made changes, & I saw some for myself. We became friends again but she seems to be only using me when she's bored or is upset. No one else will be there for her like I am, but i'm sick of this...
2006-08-28 15:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't want to leave her again, I can live fine without her..but then she won't have anyone to be there for her. But talking to her does nothing.
2006-08-28 15:32:26 · update #1
I will state it again, I broke off the friendship before because I could not deal with her anymore, then she appeared to change. but apparently, it was all an act.
I always stick up for ymself with her, & do my best not to take her crap. but she stills thinks she can walk all over me. I don't want to be her friend anymore, but I don't want to leave her because everyone else avoids being that close to her (wonder why right?) so she won't have really anyone to be there for her. It's not really draining me anymore, but she's not a good friend..I'm not sure if I should keep distancing myself or break it off completely.
2006-08-28 16:03:30 · update #2
It is not healthy to be around people that don't build you up and make you feel good about yourself. You should surround yourself with positive energy. This gal doesn't sound like a friend. Break free.
2006-09-02 17:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by queenbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4get about her if u already tried twice 2 work it out it doesnt deserve another chance.... Dont feel bad if you are the only 1 who will be there 4 her let that be a lesson 4 her so now she will really get serious about her relationships with her friends and the type of person she is.. For you leaving her think of it as a lesson that "friend" of yours has to overcome
2006-08-28 23:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Im the FuTuR3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she starts to complain, ask her what she wants u to do about that. Explain to her that friendships work both ways and the world does not revolve around her. If she agrees to these things u'll have a friendship, but if she is just the same, u can afford to let her go. Don't host resentment it is bad for ur mental health.
2006-08-28 22:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Narcissa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't even let you talk to her, then she's not really that good of a friend. And if your the one she goes to when she's bored, it's not worth sticking around. I'd just back out and if she really wants to be your friend, she'll come to you. I think you should just find a new friend and let someone else put up with her. Good luck.
2006-08-28 22:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Juliane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel I'm in the same sitch. You should probably let her go and do some growing up of her own. That way you can be free and she will start to understand that not everything means the end of the world.
2006-08-28 22:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by toyapooh03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involved in this? I would try going out and getting involved with some real quality people. Why don't you take a class that is interesting or get involved more socially. You have to be able to get out and reach out to find a friend.
I hope that you will work on your self esteem and put more energy in yourself. Takers are just so shallow what can you ever expect to get out of this. Get of the shallow roller coaster and go have some real fun! Good luck!
2006-08-28 22:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a friend whos the exact same way last year we stopped being friends completly when school started. Towards the middle of school she started talking to me again. She told me how she wanted to be friends again and how'd she changed and all that, we decided to be in eachothers lifes but to just be friends not bff or anything just friends...and its been working really wellâ¥
2006-08-28 22:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by amandafay♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a therapist about your savior complex, or face the reality that you are NOT tired yet or you wouldn't even consider involving yourself in all this drama!
To quote a line from Hamlet, "To thine ownself be true!" You befriend this person because you like to be used, admit it; or wise up and move on.
2006-08-28 22:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she sounds like an emotional drain on u.there must be a lot of friends u can make out there that can add meaning to you life
2006-09-02 13:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she needs to be all by herself so she will be forced to change and be a decent person. sometimes it takes tough love.
2006-08-28 22:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by manyhartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋