I am going on a 10 day vacation without my baby and am very apprehensive. We are flying my mom here to watch him while we go accross the country, He is 9 months old as of the day we leave and I am an at home mommy. I really believe he will be ok but Im not so sure about me, the thought makes me miss him when he's near. I am a first time mom of course by the way Im talking, and have to go for a wedding of my husbands best friend. I couldnt bring him because we will be doing a lot of hiking, and drinking. ANY Ideas of how to make myself a little less seperation anxietyish?
2006-08-28 15:28:18 · 10 answers · asked by Mommyof3 BGB 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I wanted to fly my mom with us but we will be in a hotel most of the time, and wanted a little alone time, and couldnt afford to pay for my mom. He will be in wonderful hands and I know he will be ok, its me Im acually worried about, I hope I can do it. Its a vacation, not leaving my child forever, I think in the long run doing things like this will make me a better mom because I wont get too drained to quickly, we are going on another with him over christmas. Thanks for the judgement though!
2006-08-28 15:41:23 · update #1
Sorry one more thing, I have already written a list of #s to contact, daily routine to follow, including eating and sleeping habits, what he likes to play with and when he gets upset what he needs. I know its a little compulsive, I just love that kid SOO MUCH
2006-08-28 15:43:03 · update #2
call your mom daily, ask her to put the phone up to his ear and talk to him, him hearing you will reassure that you love him and vise a versa, even though he is way to young to talk, you will be able to here his breathing and chewing on the phone-lol, relax and have fun, and keep busy! i am a grandma of 4 very young grandchildren and the two oldest, 13 months and 14 months, i started doing that daily since they were two months old, and on the weekends when i usually get them it terrific. the voice is very powerful!
2006-08-28 15:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would have brought my baby with me but some tips on how to deal....
First off leave every contact number you can think of for your mother. Not only will she not have to hunt for them but it makes you feel more secure in the fact she knows where they are. Call once a day and talk to your little guy. Even though he wont say much back it may be comforting to talk to him and hear him coo and giggle. Also prepare for the 10 days for him. Leave everything where your mother can find it and if need be leave written instructions. By putting these measures in place it gives you less things to worry about while you are away.
And dont worry too much...your mom took care of you didnt she? She will know what to do. Relax and try to have a good time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-08-28 22:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest, if possible to take little trips to the grocery store without him....you can leave him with you hubby or other relatives for a few hours here and there. It will help you and your baby get ready for this trip and other things that you need to start preparing or like preschool later! You can also start leaving him in the nursery at church if you go and that option is available.....That is a great way to get yourslef and your child over hte seperation anxiety(at daycare you leave the building for hours and at church you are in the same building and can even go sneak to the "bathroom" and peak in on him to see how well he is doing....jsut don't let him see you b/c it might upset him) While yo uare on your trip, you can call anytime yo uwant to check on your mom and the baby. That will ease your mind. You can also make out a little chart on how your day goes with the baby...kind of like your schedule of the things you do with him during hte day. That will help you feel secure that things will be familiar for you baby and that the things you want to be done will be done. Try not to make it be like a list of orders...more like "This is what we do everyday and when and this is what he is used to." I am a stay at home mom of 2 and I was so overprtective when my first baby was born. I cried the first time I went to the store with out him and I couldn't leave him with anyone...not even his daddy with out calling every 5 minutes!! I was offered to go out all the time and for people to watch him anytime I wanted but I was so overprotective that I never went anywhere without him.....but now I am a mother of a 2 year old(soon to be 3) and a 1 year old and I look forward to the time I get to go to the grocery store by myself for a half hour....not to often! So I would suggest you take advantage and have fun on your trip cause it may not happen much more! Your mom will take great care of him....she raised you! Have fun and good luck!
2006-08-28 22:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by T G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my first child. I didn't let her go untill she was 13m old. She was only one block up the road and I thought it would be the longest night ever. Well turned out once I got out and put effort into enjoying myself, knowing my baby was in good hands and happy. I had a great night and in the late morning went back and got her. It was a great break, very refreshing, and gave me a chance to be myself aside from being mommy. Try to enjoy yourself, bring a picture to show off (a little) and enjoy your hubby. You will not regret it but probably find a piece of yourself and relationship that may have disapeared once little Jr came along. Have fun!
2006-08-28 22:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 9 year old a 3 year old and a 6 month old my 9 and 3 year old I did not leave with someone until they were 3 years old. Except I had to have surgery when my 3 year old was 10 weeks old and I hated it - I knew he was fine but the anxiety I felt for leaving him and all the thoughts of what if something happens killed me. I don't know how to make you fell any better other than not going or finding a way to bring him. I wouldn't go unless I could.
2006-08-28 23:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to be mean but 10 days is too long. You are feeling apprehensive about it so think about what you're baby is going to feel like. He doesn't even know it is going to happen. Why not try like a day or two, 10 is way too long for the first time. He is going to miss you. You can't leave him that long, he is going to wonder where mommy went, please don't leave him that long.
2006-08-28 23:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAVE A COCKTAIL OR FIVE!!
But seriously, relaaaaaaax. Your mom will do fine and think of it as quality time for grandma with your son. My husband and I went on our first trip away from our 2 sons in March. They were 2 and 14 mos and I'm home with them full time too. We were worried, but called 2x a day to check on them and they had a blast with grandma and their uncle. Remember, he's still young enough to be easily distracted away from missing mommy feelings.
Enjoy your trip!
2006-08-28 22:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by mamasita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i left my son when he was 5 monthes old and the first day i was sicker then a dog and wanted to go home but one good night sleep felt so good that i was ok the rest of the trip
10 days is a long time for the first time
you should get a room for your mom and let her stay with the baby closer to you
2006-08-28 22:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by pighunter1999 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go........I woldn't go for that long anyway. Why not just 3-4 days? Or take your mom and the baby with you.That way you can have both. Unless of course hiking and drinking are more important?
2006-08-28 22:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Julzz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're crazy. 10 days away from your baby with a country between you? Takes some balls that's for sure. I sure hope your plane doesn't crash like the one yesterday morning in Kentucky. None of those poor people will ever see their children again.
2006-08-28 22:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋