What should I do?

Question

I am 21 and married with 2 kids, I have been married for 2 years. I still think about My ex boyfriend. We didnt really break up. I think that I still love him. what should I do???


I will give 10 points to the best answer????

Answer 1

Wow, this is a really hard situation. My first thought is that you've been married for two years, so obviously you moved on with your life. I should think that you would continue in the direction you've commited yourself to.
From the outside it seems like you're being quite selfish with the lives of all involved, considering the destruction you'll cause if you act on your "feelings".
But i can sympathize with your wonderings, the whole "what if" scenario. What if everything is better with him, or you start reliving past experiences. The word to focus on here is PAST, you are now a different person with a new life, and new titles:
Wife, and Mother, much more important and desireable than girlfriend, and adulterer, especially to the ones that depend, rely and love you.
There's no quick fix, no exercise, no prayer, no lottery ticket, or sitcom plot device to make the feeling go away.
My advice: cry yourself to sleep, start putting distance between yourself and the memories. Resist the urge to contact this guy, and don't respond if he decides to contact you, since you're not actually interested in just friendship with him. What you'll get is a painfull divorce, and the joy of custody arrangements.

Start thinking about why you married the man you did, and the children you have. Put your efforts into making what you have better.
The more you push the desire away the easier things will get to focus on the life and the joy you have now.

Answer 2

sounds to me like your ex was probably your first real love?? Well that feeling will never go away but in time it will settle down to where u can handle it better. I am guessing that u have to love your hubby u have 2 kids toegther and u did marry him. You need to be strong and remember u have a family life now it is time to be the grown up and enjoy your life and what u have. You cannot go to the past and change things however the decisions u make today affect your future so choose wise cause it don't just affect u it also affects your family. But most of all be strong advoid calling him or meeting him that will only lead to problems but if u feel compelled to do something cause u feel guilty for not actually breaking up with him write him a letter and explain things and that u r happy now and have 2 children and a husband and wish him the best and r sorry for not breaking up 2 years ago. But i am sure since it has been 2 years now he has moved on himself so don't let it get to u to bad. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 3

Listen, what goes around comes around. You have two kids, and plus you have a husband that didn't do anything wrong ( I am assuming). And you don't know what the marital status or what feelings your ex has towards you. A lot of times, young people that get married early and move fast in relationships just think about what they could have had. You probably don't even like him, it may be that you are just not completely satisfied with your life. All of young people that take a lot of responsibly early on feel this way. I would not do anything about this. Just try to love your family. You have a lot more than others want and don't have.

Answer 4

You are married now ya know. Find a way to forget about him or hubby will realize you're thinking about some other guy. Then he might give you the answer and leave. You need to decide if you want him or your hubby.

Answer 5

I don't mean to be so harsh.....But do you have any idea what marriage means? If you did you wouldn't be having these issues. I hate to say it but your the reason why divorce rates are so high. It's not about just you anymore....it's about your children and your husband and the vows you took. You sound very immature and selfish. Are you willing to risk it all for an ex? Ex's are ex's for a reason.

Answer 6

Well my dear, you have a family now so its time to put away childish wants and desires and think about the big picture. You are a mother, a wife and woman, and unfortunately you have to grow up. You chose to be with your husband, or you wouldnt have said yes.

Answer 7

Sound like you have not gotten over him. What is the status of your ex? If he not available then it time to look ahead and move on with what you have. Just knwo you are not the only one who been down that road.

Answer 8

either forget the past bf and get on with your married life or be honest with your hubby and get a divorce.