that if they could have the life they had before the kids they would have never had them,he says but no one will admit it. Is this true???
2006-08-28 15:08:53 · 47 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm surprised that everone has missed the obvious answer (and I think the correct one).
Your boyfriend is most definitely telling YOU he doesn't want kids. Not with you, not with anybody.
2006-08-28 16:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by glenbarrington 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one will admit that it is true because it isn't true. There are very few that will say that I will give him that, maybe it is him that don't want kids as he likes his life. I have had two kids and messed up and lost them. We haven't talked for years but have I ever said I regret having kids? Never. If I could go back in time and change things would I? No. Even though I sent them threw hell I have learned so much. I lost my wife as of course she left with them but if I was to go back and change things I wouldn't have what I have now. A loving wife that I know won't go cheating and two great boys that I can help because thier dad isn't there for them. I know I lost the time with my own children but God has given me a second chance. I don't know why I got off into all that but kids are a blessing from God and I know very few that have ever said they regret having them. But if you can, wait for the right time and the right man, cousel before marriage and know that your marriage is going to work. Take care and have a Blessed Day, Matt.
2006-08-28 15:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Matt T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!! I had my first child at 16 by my boyfriend of 3 years. I am now 31, and have a four month old baby as well. I do regret missing out on my teen years due to the responsibilities of motherhood, but NEVER have I regretted having my children. Parenting is the toughest job ever. There are times when you just want to crawl into a hole for days on end. However, children are truly a blessing. After a bad day all you have to do is look at them and see their smile, and know that it is all worth it.
2006-08-28 15:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt trade my kids for nothing in the world. It has been such a joy being a Dad to them. There is no feeling in the world any better than when your child says I love Dad. My kids are all teenagers now, not yet raised but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Like I said I wouldnt trade my kids or my experience as a father for nothing in the world. With that said though if I thought there was the slightest chance of me ever having to raise another, I would mash my nuts off with a claw hammer.
2006-08-28 15:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say, is that when my son decided to marry, he and his wife chose not to have children, they were "career people". But although, not planned a child was born. At first his mother resented it as it "ruined" her plans. But then he smiled at her. They now have two kids, the second one planned. They have not regretted what happened at all. The mom is a great mom, and has even quit work to be with her kids. You just don't realize what a joy they are until you have one. Yes a pain sometimes, but not nearly as bad as the pain when they leave home. True, they limit your playing time, but when you are mature, playing with them is so much more fun. I would get a boyfriend who is not so selfish.
2006-08-28 15:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy friend is NUTS many people are full-filled with more love when they have children.. And those who don't may even say they wish they had a child Children bring a space of joy that a new car could never bring. A house with the sound of a child is full of magic that cannot be gotten with money A house to me without the sound of a child is empty of magic.
But it's his choice and yours if not think about what you want in life and follow your heart. For the joy is yourd to have the choice is yours also
2006-08-28 15:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an excuse to not have kids. Sometimes I miss the freedom I had before becoming a mother, but I certainly never regret having my son, nor given the choice, would I change anything.
2006-08-28 15:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bug's Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs his ESP adjusted, I know people who had children "by surprise" who wouldn't change it. I not only had 2 myself, I have only regretted that I couldn't have 1 more. If this statement were really true you could tell by the way the people act. I will admit I wish I had the body back, but I will keep my kids.
2006-08-28 15:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by malraene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Obviously your life drastically changes after having children, but having kids is an amazing and rewarding experience. There are things that you may wish you had done before having kids, and maybe there will be things that you miss about your non-parenting days, however you will not regret having had children.
2006-08-28 15:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by kimberelena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My kids are the best thing that has ever happened to me. The reward me with their love. I feel sooo important because they need me soo much. I do not regret having children at all. Can't imagine life without them. Your boyfriend is absolutely wrong.
But they are a lot of work and responsibility and they completely change your lifestyle. Be sure your ready to have kids and that you are able to support them financially because they are expensive. You do lose a lot of freedom....but it's all worth it.
2006-08-28 15:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true.
Having kids when you are not ready you could regret not having the life you thought you were going to have. But never regreting that you did have kids.
Wait until you are both ready to have children.
2006-08-28 15:11:49 · answer #11 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋