Well I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. He started cutting himself because I got a job and was very controlling of what he'd let me do and was very jelous anytime I saw any of my friends (girls or guys). Anyways, so when I broke up with him he started acting weird, (can be expected) but he started sending me hate mail. I haven't talked to him since, but I am worried that he might start cutting himself again, or that he did it again when I broke up with him. I don't still like him or anythign at all, I just don't want to be the reason he kills himself. Also I am only 14 so I don't really know how to handle it. HELP!!!
2006-08-28 14:59:40 · 9 answers · asked by Sun Kissed<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why don't you tell your parents? I'm sure they would understand and would help more than anyone else.
2006-08-28 15:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one you did the right thing of getting out of the relationship. Sounds like this fellow has some problems that needs professional help. Don't let him make you feel like it is your fault or anything. You did nothing wrong, we are not here for other people to control us (except our parents until we are adults.)
This is not your problem to handle. Tell him to get help, and if he wants help, tell him you will go with him, but other than that, I would stay away.
Sounds like you are on the right track. Stay away from him, and remember be yourself, get an education, and even when you are an adult don't let anyone control you. You are you own person, and one day you will find someone that can accept you for who you are, and let you be your own person and just enjoy being part of your life.
As far as the hate mail, that is normal. You have bruised his ego, and he doesn't know how to handle this.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 15:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpeachiebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly you could tell him you cheated, provided that you want to be honest. and also tell him you do not love him anymore. it is going to damage him. there is not any way you could split with him with out hurting him. it is going to easily take time. and im not the following to criticize you for dishonest some situations. yet you need to have advised him the first few situations. i understand the first time is difficult, yet in case you began to get thoughts for the recent guy im particular you've had sufficient time spent with him. so tell your boyfriend you in ordinary words do not love him, that it may not workout habitual. or perhaps in a while contained in the destiny, even with in case you do not favor to. it will make him sense a touch good interior. yet he will nevertheless be damage.
2016-12-05 20:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really worried, I would refer the matter to an adult you trust. Self-mutilation is a serious psychological condition. Although you are not responsible for him anymore and should bear no guilt should he harm himself, I suspect you would like to make sure that doesn't happen.
2006-08-28 15:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, and then ask them to talk to his. Or, go to a trusted adult. He needs some help, but by no means at all should you satisfy him by dating him again.
2006-08-28 15:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by writergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a problem.Talk with your parents and tell them about what he is doing.Maybe they can talk with his parents.
2006-08-28 15:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're really that scared then try and tell a teacher or a counsler or even try talking to his parents if you've ever met them
2006-08-28 15:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better better talk to your parents or a counselor on this. you may need serous help on this.
2006-08-28 15:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by ronson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to relieve stress, i went through school, and that was common, to cut yourself to relieve stress.
2006-08-28 15:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Aircraft Killer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋