i am16and just found out that 1 am 4months pregnant by going to my doctors app. my boyfriends wants me to tell my mom but im sooo scared, she wont be mad but she'll be very hurt by this, what should i do?
2006-08-28 14:57:42 · 36 answers · asked by brownsuga16 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can't turn back time and you can't go through this alone. TELL YOUR MOM. She will give you good advice on how to handle this situation. It's natural to feel scared, and for your mom to be hurt, but she needs to know what's happening to you so that you can make the right choices and take care of that growing baby inside of you. When you are pregnant, there's so many things you aren't allowed to do and eat. So take care and don't delay. Your mom will understand. You are her daughter.
2006-08-28 15:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young to be a mother. The child growing within you does not deserve to go without, as you can not provide for it without government assistance and even then not that well, simply because you, a child, decided to do a very adult act, sex. Your parents also carry some blame for this situation in the fact that they have allowed you to be in a situation that becoming pregnant was even an option. You need to look up in a phone book, adoption. There are thousands of married couples who can not have a child of their own but would like nothing more than to be a parent. These married couples are able to provide a child not only with the important "things" in life but also with the time that you will not have as you will be completeing school and having to work to support this child. You can choose a closed or open adoption and you can even pick put the couple. As for telling your mother, do it soon as you will need a lot of suport with this situation. Just tell her, "Mom, I made a mistake and I'm pregnant'. Let her know that you have looked into all your options and that you are looking into adoption. Also, you need to understand that sex outside of marriage is wrong and it is a sin. God created sex to be a very special thing to happen only between a married man and woman. Anything beyond that is sin. You need to realize this because until you deal with this situation, you will be unworth to stand before your God. To repent is not only to see that you were wrong but also to turn from it and not repeat the same mistake again. After the child is born and you have placed him or her with a loving married couple, you need to not have sex of any sort again until your wedding night. I know that this is not the PC answer to your question but the truth is not always PC. Good luck.
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2006-08-28 15:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Anyways, more importantly dont beat yourself up over the fact that your pregnant, it wont change anything. Try to stay positive, and please dont party while you are pregnant. The aftermath of that is just plain wrong. Best of luck, keep your heads up, life seems to always work out, dont try to plan and structure every little thing there are too many variables you cant control, and I wish f you the best
You have to tell your mom you are gonna hurt her more by not telling her. yeah she may be upset and hurt but everything will be okay, moms are almost always there for there daughters, she was your age once. Things are gonna be fine you cant stress out that will only hurt you and the baby.
2006-08-28 15:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jon and Nichole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell your mom. I was pregnant at 16, and when I told my mom of course she was a little mad. She turned out to be the best support I had. She is your mom, I am sure she will always be there for you know matter what. If you need more advice from someone who went through the same thing you are goin through, feel free to send me a message on yahoo messanger, my screen name is alicia26_2002. Good luck hun!
2006-08-28 15:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How ignorant are all you saying to murder a baby?
As for the moron who said "Its not healthy for a 16 year old to bring a baby to term " how stupid are you? Do not sit here and feed this girl false stories to try and scare her my aunt is a damn OBGYN and it is perfectly fine to have a baby at 16 with no problems.
I was 16 when I got pregnant and I kept my baby because unlke some of you a**** here telling her to murder her baby I stood up and did the mature thing and took responsibility for what happened, I did not run crying to a clinic to kill my baby.
The best advice I can give you is you and your boyfriend sit down with your mother and tell her the situation and be firm with her that you wanna keep the baby.
I had a baby at 16 and yes it can be hard but thier are lots of ups to having a baby so young and one being is going to college for cheap or free.
If you would like to chat with other teen moms or other teens who are pregnant check out justmommies.com and got to the teen mommies or teen pregnancy forum's.
This site is for mothers of all ages and has a lot of diffrent forums for you to have fun in. My name on thier is diamondsglow if you decide to join and wanna chat,
2006-08-28 16:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy_Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was there, 18 and pregnant. Mayke sure you tell your mom. After the shock wears off she can really help. I mean, she was pregnant with you at some point!
Keep your head up, there's lots of help out there!
As a teen mom, forget people who dismiss you as not knowing a lot. There are lots of older adults who are clueless! For you though, stay educated by reading everything you can get your hands on, researching online, and asking your doctor/midwife lots of questions.
Also, subscribe to BabyZone it gives you lots of information in weekly emails.
2006-08-28 15:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by lilquriuzwun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetie, you definitely need to tell your mom. It's very scarey and a very difficult thing for you to do, but now is the time to take responsibility for your actions. And the first step is being honest with your mom.
Yeah, she might be hurt, upset and possibly even mad but you're going to need her more now than ever. There really isn't a gentle way of breaking the news, but maybe open up with something like, "I have to tell you something and you might be upset, but I really need your love and support right now..." It's not easy but you have to do it.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 15:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She will eventually find out as the months progress and you start to show even more if you aren't already. You're better off telling her now. She'll feel better knowing it than months down the road when she is at the hospital! And I am sure she is going to do anything she can to help you out from now until then...you will appreciate the help and need it! good luck!
2006-08-28 15:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is tell her I was in A situation close to this I told my mom I was pregnant at five months and she was very hurt but she got over it and helped me out a lot.
2006-08-28 15:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by honeygirland 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to do what you know is right. you must be scared and confused, but at the end of the day you made a little baby whose heart is beating within you. you are very, very young and your life will be very different now. there are agencies in the directories that are there for you. but you really need to have a talk with your mother. school is a priority you will need that for your future. all the best and be strong.
2006-08-28 15:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋