How do you get Over your Husband?

Question

My friend ask me this How do you get Over your Husband of 9 years? We have been apart for about 1 year and I cant get him out of my mind! Or how do I get him back??

The reason the broke up is her family started alot of ****

its not me its my friend

Answer 1

i don't think you ever really get over it. all you can do is try and keep on going. if it was met to be you will find him again,or you will find new love.good luck and don't give up on love.

Answer 2

Well first of all, how did you two break up?

When you can't get someone out of your mind is because of some sort of reason. And in your case, depending on how you 2 broke up would be your answer to why you can't get him out of your head.

Did he do something bad? Then maybe you just can't get over what he has done to you.

Or did you two have a fight? One thing you should know is that a married couple isn't a good couple if they never fight every once in a while, so your answer here would be that you still love him.

It's your life and no one can control it, but I'm pretty sure that you should tell him how you feel and ask him back. He has the rights to say "No" and if he does then you must move on with your life. Though it may be hard because getting over something/someone takes a while. You must worry about yourself and only you untill you have gotten him out of your head.

This is only my opinion, your in control of your own life and I wish you the best of luck.
Also, talking to your most trusted friends help alot too.

I Hope I Helped.

Answer 3

Well, if you two seperated; it was obviously for a reason. You shouldn't want to be back with him because you feel lonely because that is making your self succeptable to whatever suffering this man put you through before that caused the split.
What you need to do is relax and let go. It takes a very lengthy time to get over someone you love, especially when you've been married for 9 years, and it wont happen over night (i've got to be blunt here).
First, you have to start thinking for yourself. Worry about you and only you. Do things for yourself. Pamper yourself. Be worried about your needs and only yours.
Second, you need to stop sitting around thinking about this man. You should get out and have fun with friends. Go to the movies, go to clubs, go to parties, and just try and have a good time. When you're having a good time you tend to forget about things in your past that cause you pain. Also, if you get out more your heart will heal faster and perhaps someday a better man will come along.
If he has gotten over you all you can do is move on.
If you feel deeply depressed on the situation, try getting professional help from a counselor. A counselor can support you with any emotional issues you may have and can give you the support that people on Yahoo! Answers cannot give.

Answer 4

The best advice I can give you is simply this...there is nothing that makes getting over someone easier...simply time and trust that a better life awaits is all that a person can go on. I have been divorced twice, and in both instances was terribly heartbroken. IN both cases, I thought life was pretty much over...and oh, how wrong I was! I have since remarried for a third time, and this time I feel honestly is the best woman I could have ever met. Believe it or not, we met on Yahoo Personals, and for the first time I am deeply in love with a woman whom deeply loves me back. Life is great! Had you of asked me that 2 years ago, or my wife for that matter, we both would have told you that life was anything but fun. You can tell yourself or your friend these....

1. Life is about change...the mere fact that people live their lives thinking that everything stays the same, are setting themselves up for disappointment out of the gate.
2. Hurting and not being able to get over someone you've been with for 9 nine years is perfectly natural. In fact, I'd be asking what's wrong with a person that moves on without much care towards the same relationship. The hurts lets you know that you are still a human, and capable of providing love in your relationships. In other words, hurting is not necessarily bad!
3. Along with the hurting, you have to continue to live your life and stop neglecting yourself from enjoying life. Understand, it's not about finding a replacement for your ex, it's just about living life to the fullest, the best possible way you can. By doing that, you decrease the amount of time needed to heal, and furthermore subject yourself to the possibility of finding that someone truly special for you, even if it's your ex. To say I could have met my wife, whom lived over 100 miles away from me, by sitting in my house moping and pining for my ex would have been impossible.

Simply, nothing heals wounds other than time...and you know what...that's all right! Take care!

Answer 5

You should express all your feeling for him in a letter. You dont neccesarily have to give him the letter but either way you'll feel better about yourself and it will help you somewhat get him out of your head because if the emotion is gone then what else is there left 2 hold on to? Nothing. Exactly. Your over him after that.

Answer 6

There is a reason it's over. Take the energy you have spent thinking about the ex and put it into yourself and creating a new life for yourself. When you least expect it the 'right guy' will come into your life.

Answer 7

Well, how do you get over a boyfriend of 5.5 years? The same way. Cr your eyes out and then start dating again!

Answer 8

well my first marriage ended about two years ago, and it is very hard to get over someone that you do love dearly. i still think of him everyday even though i'm getting married again. love is just a very stange feeling..... that you'll never can walk away from even when you love that person dearly

Answer 9

wow..tough question...surround yourself with friends..fact is you may never be over him..i wouldnt try to get him back as you and him broke up for a reason. and if it was that serious. they would probly never forgive each other..even though they would try..inside it probably cant be done..but who really knows.. good luck

Answer 10

if he really loves you hell come back on his own.dont push the issue and if its meant to be it will. time and only time heals our wounds. try to go on with your life , and live as if it werent going to happen. dont give yourself false hope. dont know why you seperated in the first place but good luck to you. never give up.theres someone for everyone.