Anyone Who Ever Been In A Abusive Relationship Before Or Not.?

Question

Explain. Easy Or Hard Details.

Answer 1

I was in a emotional and verbally abusive relationship when I was married to my ex-husband. He was very controlling and manipulative person. He thought he had to control everyone, even his own parents. I was with him for 5 years. I did not realize the signs of the abuse until I caught him cheating on me, and went to get out of the relationship. Then I was like, What was I thinking. Because he did not start the abuse right from the start, he did it gradually. First, it was he didn't like certain friends of mine, and before long it was all my friends and people I would meet and want to start a friendship with. Then it got to where I could not go see my family or talk to any of them on the phone without him present. Like I said he did all this gradually, nothing to bring my suspicions up. Toward the end, I noticed that I wasn't able to go or see anyone but his Mom and Dad; and then everything I would say to them, they would go back and tell him. I was a Prisoner. I got out of that, I have never looked back. I don't really understand what your question was, but I have explained my experience with an abusive relationship.

Answer 2

I myself have been in a couple abusive relationships and the last one was the worst, I married the a..hole anyway knowing that he was abusive you see I was a codependent and to put up with his physical and mental abuse expecially when he was drunk which was most of the time I got heavily into meth which made matters worse becuz when you use that stuff you yourself become mean and instead of making matters beter it made matters worse, I can remember one insident where I picked up a cardboard box and threw it at him becuz he was being mean to me and he so he proceeded to throw a full beer can right at my head (my son was watching the whole thing) Another insident was he was mad becuz I was talking to my son in my room and he thought we were talking about him and I said something in retaliation to him an he charged into the room threw me down on the bed grabbed me by the throat and as he was choking me he began to pour beer down my throat when he was done doing that to stop me from screaming he proceeded to bite my face taking a piece of my cheek off, and that is just a few of the things I went thru in my abusive relationship it would take a novel to put all the abuse I subjected myself and my son to. Hope that is what you were looking for! I dont wish that on even my worst enemy and now that I am completely sober no more drugs or abusive relationships for me. Two years of sobriety and two wonderful yrs without the abuse.

Answer 3

Oh yeah, most defiantly.
My first marriage was very, very abusive. He cheated, he beat me, he locked me in closets while he was drunk so I could not leave, he beat me while I was pregnant and then locked me outside in the snow while barefoot. I lost my child at 6 months pregnant and spent 2 weeks in the hospital. He got drunk and slit my arm with a broken beer bottle.
He kidnapped our child and I got into a high speed chase with him to get her back.
And I put up with this crap for 12 years because I was afraid of him and he threatened to kill me and our daughter if I ever left or called the police.
I finally got up the nerve to leave his sorry *** and moved back home with my parents. They had been begging me for years to do it. And what broke the camels back was he got drunk and started to hit my child. Nobody lays a hand on my children. I had already made her suffer enough from watching the abuse he inflicted on me. But I finally got brave when that anger turned towards her.

Answer 4

I was in an abusive relationship for about 4 years....I started dating a guy when I was 17, moved out of my parents, moved in with him....Quickly got pregnant and had my daughter at age 18. The abuse didn't start until after I had my daughter.
It started off as just minor verbal things....just calling me stupid or ***** or another name....Then it quickly became physical. A slap turned into a punch, which escalated into choking, hair pulling....you name it.
And the verbal abuse was awful. I was getting called fat ***, ugly, whore, always accused of cheating. I was told that no one would want me because who would want someone who had a child?
I remember going to work every day while this piece of crap just sat on his butt. Then I would come home and he would go off with his friends....drinking, doing drugs, (and later I found out) cheating on me, while I raised my daughter. Alone.
I was so brainwashed into thinking that I couldn't do any better....That I was nothing without him. It didn't matter what he did, I always went running back.
Until one day, I did leave. A few months later, his family called me and told me that he was going to church and wanted his family back. I went back, like an idiot.
Things were okay for about a month. Then, one day we spent the weekend at his brother and his girlfriends house. His brother and his girl were in their bedroom, and he was in the spare bedroom. My daughter and I were in the living room, watching cartoons and sitting on the couch. I walked into the spare bedroom and here he was....smoking a crack pipe. I called the cops, called a ride, and left without ever looking back.
I spent a good bit of time single, trying to find my identity. I finally began dating around a while, but was scared to get serious with anyone. I finally did. After a year, my husband and I were married on December 30, 2005. We planned and are now expecting our second child in January. (By the way, my daughter is now my husbands....her "sperm donor" hasn't had contact with her in three years. Last I heard he is in jail, and I am currently going through court to have all of his rights terminated...and for my husband to legally adopt her.)
I was stupid for staying in the relationship for so long. But I was scared....scared to live life without someone...even someone who treated me like garbage. Scared that if I left, maybe he would kill me. Scared that I couldn't make it on my own. But I did. And I'm alive. And I look back with no regrets, only knowledge in knowing what true love is, knowing how a man is supposed to treat a woman, knowing that you can get out of an abusive relationship.
If anyone out there is in an abusive relationship, GET OUT! The person will not change. I heard it a million times, and it only got worse. I was lucky to get out alive. Go stay with a friend, a family member, a shelter for abused women...ANYWHERE. Just get out. It doesn't get better. And someone that loves you will not hurt you. Physically or mentally.

Answer 5

yes i have been in one and it's was hell and i wouldn't want any girl to go though that. so if you are in one get out as fast as you can. Because he will say i love you and i wont do it no more. that bull ****. no girls should go though that ****. but lucky i am married to a good man and he treat me well. when i was with my ex he would hit me and tell me ugly stuff. make me feel ugly inside and he also broke my leg one time and i had it. it's took a long time for me to trust anyone. but like i said i met my husband and now i am happy. but all i can say be careful

Answer 6

no
and i would not stick around in it to see wgat happens either