Lonely sometimes?

Question

This is not a joke, its an actual question. If your just going to give some smart *** answer, then go do something else.

I get lonely sometimes, I try and avoid most human contact (if I could avoid all, that would be totally ideal for me), but sometimes I do get very lonely, I'm wondering what a possible solution would be.

I don't friends, and I don't want a g/f. So any ideas?

A lizard sounds like a good idea.

Answer 1

I think that admitting that you are lonely is the last taboo in society. People just dont talk about it but I think that its one of the most profound things that people can feel and it takes a lot of guts to admit that you are lonely so well done.
It seems that you have decided to cut yourself off from people which is totally your right. However, as you are lonely it seems that you must crave human contact sometimes on some level. Perhaps there is a reason why you cut everyone off in the first place that needs to be resolved. Or maybe you are almost trying to prove a point to yourself that you dont need people.
I think that everyone needs a friend- even if its just a friend you see very rarely or only talk to on the phone. Perhaps you could join a group that do something you like (for me it would be a reading group) it would be great if they meet every month... thats about enough I think.
What I dont think is helpful, though are online friends. Obviously there are some cool people out there but its all very artificial and it kinda makes you feel a bit mad (sorry if I offend anyone but its just my opinion- yeah, I know Im online now but I hope you see what I mean).
Anyway- thats just what I think. Good luck!
ps- I just thought ... a pet might be good (hope thats not patronising!)

Answer 2

I will not give a smart *** answer, I can assure you that.

I have to wonder though, have you always been a loner? Did something happen that you drew back from other human contact or not wanting friends.

You can have some kind of contact via the internet - but it is not the same as personal contact face-to-face. My suggestion would be to take baby steps (so to speak). Plan 1 day a week or 1 day a month were you just go out. If you don't want to talk to anyone just go out and drive. So you can see others.

Perhaps go to a coffee shop. Most folks at coffee shops are happy to be there - perhaps you'll strike up a conversation and make a new friend.

If you are feeling depressed and feeling very isolated I would also suggest speaking to a physician and or counselor. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I am too....and as for human contact - well, I have my moods. Sometimes I like people sometimes I don't. But the truth of the matter is we were not created to live Life alone. It can be dangerous.........(who will plug there ears when you scream---pick you up when you fall??) I know sometimes I really don't want to bother with the human race either but you don't need to go through Life all by yourself. Even if you don't want a gf right now thats fine (I don't want a bf right now..at least I think I don't I am somewhat confused - forgive me)...but you still need someone. How about a dog or an email friend?

Answer 4

I feel like I'm going through the exact same thing. I have some friends, but I still feel completely alone. Today was the first day of school, and it was terrible. Every year I feel alone and it seems like it never gets any better. I feel like no one understands what I'm going through. I feel stuck and like there's no way out. I feel trapped and scared and alone, hurt, miserable, and afraid of what will come next. Whenever I start to feel lonely, (which is usuaully during the school year and during school), I like to write poetry in my spare time, listen to music during lunch since there's no one to talk to, and read magazines. Also, exercising will not only help your body, but help lift your spirits up a bit. My day could not have been worse, and it was only the first day, so I wonder how the next days to come will be. I feel like most humans are just going to go against me, pretend they like me but don't, and just like to make fun of me. When I came down to it and thought hard, most people suck. The worst feeling ever is embarrassment without any support. After embarrassment, all I want to do is die and cry and scream (Today was an example of this. I wrote about it earlier.), and when there's no support, my whole day fades to gray. You're not alone. I had the worst and most lonely first day of school and this is how it's always been every year. I mean, there's no need to have people around if all they're going to do is be fake and stab us in the back. People just need to stop being such liars and learn to treat others with respect. Good luck.

Answer 5

I get lonely lots. I am 49 year old single woman whose kids have left the nest. Sure I have a few friends, but most are married and have very busy lives.

I try to stay busy. I visit family, and I do things that I want to do.

I don't have any real answers for you, because you say that you would like to avoid human contact. Maybe a pet would help?

Answer 6

certain, loneliness is portion of existence. you could be socially sufficient, have a lot of friends and admirers round you, yet nevertheless, you could sense lonely. there are countless ranges of loneliness, it may be social, religious, psychological or actual, if none of any concrete examples can alleviate your experience of loneliness, then you truthfully will be plagued by melancholy or some type of existential disillusionment. some human beings manage it and manage it in fortified way: they're on my own with out feeling lonely. smart human beings manage all of it precise. don't be fooled through what you spot outdoors even as anybody is out paying for, partying and mingling, they nevertheless carry inner rigidity and melancholy.yet you wont remedy it through internalising it extra; it in ordinary words amplifies the region. flow out, do stuff, come across a sparkling interest, study something new, interactive ideally, or commit your self to at least something, supply and develop. search for advice from with a random individual. The walls of the field can continuously be pushed outwards, room for improve.

Answer 7

Actually, that sense of lonliness is part of the human condition. No matter what you do, it will sometimes be there. Some people try to fill it with friends, family, work, sex, but it comes back. You have to realize that the feeling you're referring to as "lonely" is simply a passing phase and a part of being human.

Answer 8

i so know what you're talking about like people look at me and assume i have friends and im happy and social and what not but i really dislike being around poeple i hate parties and whatever i have a boyfriend and honestly he's the only person (besides the people i live with) that i can be around. and sometimes i dont really know how to explain it but i get this super wierd feeling like i miss something or idk.. it's weird!! well i don't really have an answer but i know how you feel and try and frind a girlfriend that you can talk to but will let you have your space. like you can sit in the same room together on oppisite sides and still feel incredibly close because im the same way!

Answer 9

Get a pet. I'm not being smart. There have honestly been plenty of studies done that show dogs, cats, and other animals are great companions and wonderful cures for loneliness. Better yet, they can't be smart***'s or talk back, but you always know that someone is there and almost always on your side.

Answer 10

may be you should try a hobbie that you like and just play by your self.not to be a smart *** but its not to much you can do with out human contact.may be you could take a class and met people that you like.are play video games, are word puzzles.are o see a moive. basicly you need human contact at some point to stay sain