help please?

Question

what is the best way to tell your parents that your pregnant i'm almost 17 and i am but i have no idea how to tell my parents
the bad thing is my mom never understands anything and always throws negitive thoughts and she's by-polor and my dad will probally kick me out
yes the baby father will be there we together and have been for 9months almost 10 and he's alittle bit older than me and my parents dont like him so it even hard to tell them and i plan to keep it b.c i dont belive in abortions or giving a kid up b.c i think u should take responsibilty for your actions

and i cant move out because i have to get amansipated and they wont let me

Answer 1

You are too young to be a mother. The child growing within you does not deserve to go without, as you can not provide for it without government assistance and even then not that well, simply because you, a child, decided to do a very adult act, sex. Your parents also carry some blame for this situation in the fact that they have allowed you to be in a situation that becoming pregnant was even an option. You need to look up in a phone book, adoption. There are thousands of married couples who can not have a child of their own but would like nothing more than to be a parent. These married couples are able to provide a child not only with the important "things" in life but also with the time that you will not have as you will be completeing school and having to work to support this child. You can choose a closed or open adoption and you can even pick put the couple. As for telling your mother, do it soon as you will need a lot of suport with this situation. Just tell her, "Mom, I made a mistake and I'm pregnant'. Let her know that you have looked into all your options and that you are looking into adoption. Also, you need to understand that sex outside of marriage is wrong and it is a sin. God created sex to be a very special thing to happen only between a married man and woman. Anything beyond that is sin. You need to realize this because until you deal with this situation, you will be unworth to stand before your God. To repent is not only to see that you were wrong but also to turn from it and not repeat the same mistake again. After the child is born and you have placed him or her with a loving married couple, you need to not have sex of any sort again until your wedding night. I know that this is not the PC answer to your question but the truth is not always PC. Good luck.
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Answer 2

I am going to be 38 weeks pregnant on wednesday and i am 17 when i told my parents well grandparents they didnt react the way i thought they would but i guess its because me and him were living together already and because they really like him . But the best thing to do is tell your parents they will have to respect the simple fact that you want to take responsibilities of being a parent. But do tell them in when they are in a good mood and have him there so they wont think he is irrersponsible try to have both his parents and yours there so you can tell them all at once

Answer 3

While you have made a hefty mistake, its great that you have thought through your situation and realized the responsibility you have placed on yourself. Its also great that your boyfriend is so supportive, and is committed even in the face of a pregnancy.
Telling your parents will basically throw it in their faces that their little girl is no longer a little girl anymore. This is alot to take for any parent.
That said, you need to figure out a reasonable and detailed financial plan with your boyfriend, including any savings, loans to be paid, and work out a budget for childcare, and possible living arrangements. When that is done, sit them down and tell them asap, a time that they aren't rushed, when your mom is in the up swing of her condition, tell them that you realize this is disappointing to them, but that you are going to have a baby. Tell them that you realize that you are young, but you want to keep your baby because you want to be responsible for your actions. Then tell them what you and your boyfriend's plans are, to keep your little family together, and how you will be able to raise your child.
Above all, let them know that they can be angry at you and your boyfriend all they want, but this is their grandchild, and the baby should not be given the cold shoulder or be thought less of just because it was born out of wedlock, something that it had no control over.
Try not to be hysterical, or overly emotional. Being calm but firm will let them know that this is not just a spontaneous outburst, but a carefully thought out plan. If they become angry or hostile, tell them that you will continue the discussion at a later date when they have calmed down.
My sister was 20 and unmarried when she had her first little one. (My parents were always adamant that if any of us got pregnant before we were married, we would be kicked out. When she broke the news, the first thing they did was hug her and tell her she could live with them for as long as she needed. Your dad may surprise you in the end. :-)

Answer 4

At the moment, I don't have time to write a lengthy response, but I'll come later and add more for you to think about. For the moment, I would like it if you'd consider this:

You don't believe in giving your child up for adoption because you think you should take responsibility for your actions.

A child is not a punishment and not something you need to take on for the rest of your life because of an 'accident' To truly take responsibility for your child, you would want to do what's best for him/her.

Before you go and tell your parents, you need to have a solid plan to present to them, so they know that you're not running to them crying for help. You need to start thinking about how this is going to work.

Be back later :)

Answer 5

Ok, I think the best place to start is with a councillor from school, or another place that will help you and your parents communicate together regarding this issue. I would start on this as soon as possible.

Answer 6

Oh man you've got yourself in a tough situation. I think you should talk to you mom alone first, and explain stuff little by little. She probably won't understand, but show her that you and your spouse are really up and ready to raise a child. The best of luck to you.

Answer 7

try this: first start with something to lighten the mood....be like, "hey mom, dad, im wanted for Manslaughter! just kidding! but im pregnant." But id have what the other ppl said as plan b.

Answer 8

just tell them, have a bag packed and a place ready to go incase they do kick you out, good luck