I have a boy friend, and I've given him so many chances but he keeps messin' up should i dump him?

Question

he's not hot but I think hes alright like hes not ugly but I think it could really work this time but I just dont want to lay my whole self out there because i dont want to get hurt again ecspeccially by him of all people

Answer 1

Don't waste your time anymore. Leave him!

Answer 2

Have a heart-to-heart talk, do not confront him... Bring him to a place & make him feel really at ease to speak his thoughts about this relationship to you...

If he still does not change despite several chances given, leave him. There are other guys whom are much better than he is, don't just go for the physical appearance, what matter most is the heart, at least get someone whom you would deem to be presentable, proud enough to bring around.

It's pointless to have a great-looking hunk with a ugly heart, he'll just make a fool out of you. Gaining control of the man is better than to be controlled. Do you not agree?

Answer 3

You sound really young. What are you, like 13? And what do you mean by messing up? Not being able to read your mind? Not doing exactly what you want him to do? I don't think you're old enough or mature enough to have a boyfriend because it's a two-way street and there is some give and take and you don't seem to be able to do either. Be single for a long time.

Answer 4

Not trying to be smart but you really should stop worring about boys at your age and concentrate more on your school work. Having said that, he sounds like a loser and not ready to have a g/f. Most young boys aren't b/f material so enjoy your youth and don't be in such a hurry for love. You'll have a lifetime for that once you are matured.

Answer 5

How is he messin up? Is he getting involved with other girls? Does he smell bad? Does he say the wrong things? Is he into drugs or something illegal?

If he is into anything illegal it might be best to keep your distance from him or you might get implicated.

If he is out with other girls too much, then have a talk with him to determine if you are going to be his one and only or would he prefer you were just good neighbors.

Answer 6

Let him know that you are done with all the crap. Now if he agrees than give him one more chance . P.S. You should never judge by looks alone . If you do you could be cheating yourself out of some great friends .

Answer 7

if you have given him so many chances and nothing works, it only meant one thing he would never change... one thing i have to tell you is that its foolish to think that giving love and understanding to a man will change him the way you want.. love is not all about changing the person to conform with your standards or idea of mr. right but its more of accepting a man for what he is and loving him inspite of all his failings.. so the bottomline is if you can't bear him and your feelings for him is starting to give you pain, better for you to just leave and give yourself another chance with another relationship... good luck..

Answer 8

Naw, you should not dump him...keep giving him chance after chance after chance...soon enough, he will come around to total disrespect, and the next time you post here, it will be, "MY bf doesn't repsect me...what should I do."
You are living in dreamland...good luck

Answer 9

what does ur heart say. i know that ur brain is sayn somethin different, but, come to a resolution by listenin to both ur sides. u dont need this site to solve ur problems. remember u dont need a guy to be the best. like T.I. said, " Are you happy?" well, r u?

Answer 10

dump it,your heart can only take it for so long. you need to move on, cause there is a better guy out there that will treat you better. it'll be hard at first,but keep fighting,and you'll find mr.right

Answer 11

honey if you keep giving him chances and he keeps messin up then you should just probably dump him. do not waste your time on spilled beans. move on and find someon to be good to you.