FOR mothers with yound daughter that is pregant or been pregnant?

Question

what is the best way to tell your parents that your pregnant i'm almost 17 and i am but i have no idea how to tell my parents

the bad thing is my mom never understands anything and always throws negitive thoughts and she's by-polor and my dad will probally kick me out

yes the baby father will be there we together and have been for 9months almost 10 and he's alittle bit older than me and my parents dont like him so it even hard to tell them

and i plan to keep it b.c i dont belive in abortions or giving a kid up b.c i think u should take responsibilty for your actions

Answer 1

Oh you poor girl!!! Break it to them gently. Just say I have something to tell you, and I need your support and guidance right now. It's not the time to judge or critisize me, I need your help. Then tell them. Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm an older mom that raised my daughter by myself from the time she was 9yrs old when her dad died until she was almost 20,and a single mother with a 2 1/2 yr old daughter! It's a hard thing to do. I don't know what your relationship with your parents is.Are your parents together or will you have to tell each one separately? There's going to be a lot of questions that you're going to have to have answers for!I think some night just before you are all done having dinner, you should just come out and say that you would like to have some time to talk with "both" of them! I'm sure they would get the idea that it must be important if you were asking to speak to them together. I'd probably take them into the livingroom so you could all sit down comfortably. Just say, Mom, Dad, there's something I've got to tell you, "I'm pregnant! There it is! When my daughter told me, I just sat there in silence, I was thinking , this was my baby and she was going to have a baby! I can't tell you how they will react! She keep looking at me and then asked if I was going to say anything , was I angry , was I disappointed, did I still Love her? And I'll never forget my reaction, I reached over to her and put my arms around her and I started to cry, I said , I love you and we're going to get through this together! That was MY reaction, how your parents will react I don't know. Hopefully you have a good relationship with your parents! It's going to be hard , it isn't going to be easy but you'll get through it! You must care about them and love them or you wouldn't be asking how to tell them. Do it face to face no matter what your relationship is.If you love them, tell them ! Tell them you need them to support you in whatever you decide, cause only you can make the decisions that have to be made for this little one!This is experience talking here, so I wish you and your baby the best. take care of yourself and do what's right! Another mom that's been through the same thing! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Tell them right away. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. You and the baby's father should tell both sets of parents at once. You shouldn't have to do this alone. Even if you and the father are not together as a couple. Your parents will probably be angry at first, but they love you and they will love the baby. That is their grandchild. Let them yell and scream and get it off their chests, then wait for the love to kick in. I hope the father is going to be there for you and the baby! Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 4

I was in similar situation. It depends on if your parents are ok to talk to. They need to know, but depending on if you personally can tell them or not, you might need to go to a trusted adult. Maybe a teacher, guidance counselor, pastor, or whoever you can trust that can be there for you. They could tell your parents with you. If you can tell them on your own, then I would tell them at a time where all of you can sit down together. The best way I could come up with when I was pregnant was to just say I'm pregnant, then wait for their response. I would allow them to say what they need to say. They may yell, or be upset, but they are shocked. Try not to argue back. If you know what you want to do, tell them. It is always hard in this situation, but once you get it out to them, you can move forward. Good luck. Take care of yourself sweetie!
If it gets bad, you can go to a teen pregnancy crisis center, they will help you out. They can't kick you out. You are under age.

Answer 5

First, good luck. I totally know what you are going through. I got pregnant when I was 16yo. I thought my parents would kill me. It was so hard.

Secondly, I just gathered up my nerve and told my mom that I wanted to take her out for lunch. I figured she wouldn't flip out too bad in a big public place. I was right. She didn't even scream at me!

Third, you can't put it off. Let your mom know that you are coming to her for her support, that you trust her.

Fourth, make sure you see a doctor throughout your pregnancy, even if your parents do flip out. You need medical attention.

Fifth, you can always place your child for adoption. If that is your choice, you can get loads of support from the adoption agencies. And lastly, don't forget to check out what your area has for teen moms. I got tons of help from social service agencies in my area.

By the way, I am the happy mother of a wonderful ten year old son whom I chose to parent and have since added two younger sisters for him. I couldn't have done it without my mom.

Answer 6

First, make sure you have a place lined up if they make you leave. Do you have a friend with an understanding mom or a aunt or other relative? Tell them that you have some bad news and you are scared and need their help. I would encourage you to consider keeping the child or giving it up for adoption.

You can also call crisis counseling hotline in your area, such as your county social services department and they can help you. You need to go see an OB-GYN as soon as possible. Good luck.

Answer 7

When my daughter was sixteen she got pregnant, she told me one day when I was talking about pregnant teens, she went to her room...started crying I asked what was wrong and she told me. I went to the bathroom and threw up. After that everything OK. Iam raising that daughter now she is 12 and we adopted her.

For you just sit your Mom or Dad down (whoever you trust the most) and let them know that you are pregnant. Believe me they will have a fit but it will pass with time. It is better to tell them now than later. Ask for their forgiveness, tell them that you are still their same good daughter... that is was your mistake and that you will do anything to take care of the baby and so forth. I know you will be scare but it has to be done. May God Bless you.

Answer 8

I was 16 when I was raped and got pregnant from it. I learned I had to tell my mom about the preganncy, but I never told her how it happened. The most important thing I learned later is how devastating this situation for someone as young as 16 or 17. I was a very responsible kid, but I was still a kid.

If the pregnancy was due to being forced or coerced, you need to tell whichever family member you trust most because you need to get those feelings out. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

If the pregancy is an accident, or was planned, you have to be mature enough to tell your parents face to face. If you feel you are mature enough to have sex, you are mature enough to talk about it. My advice is to ask them to set aside one hour tomorrow night to talk to you about soemthign very important to you. be sure to talk honestly about your feelings, even if you are not sure what you are feeling. No matter what their response is you need to remember you are entitled to your own feelings and opinions. No matter how upset they may be the decisions that must be made are yours to make, not theirs. Ask them for guidance; if they are not willing to give it, then go to another adult who is. You should not have to face this alone. It is very important they understand your decisions because their consent and help may be needed for the medical care you will require, regardless of what you decide to do. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

I got pregnant just after my seventeenth birthday. I waited until I was seven months along to tell them and I live with them. Dumb idea. They will be more willing to help you out if they know you are honest with them. My parents felt like I lied to them for that long. It was so hard to tell them because I was so scared. Bring a friend with so you don't feel alone or ambushed. I know exactly what you are going through but telling them is definitely for the better.

Answer 10

You just have to do it. I was pregnant at 17 and my mother can be scary! She was so strict. I had tried to do it on my own... the pregnancy test, the appointment to see about an abortion, everything. It's too much to do on your own.

I broke down and told her one day. She was shockingly good about it. She was very devestated, but supportive. You've made a mistake. Your mother will understand that. Maybe not immediately, but she will. When you get older, you would hate that you kept that from your mother, and you wouldn't want your daughter to keep it from you. Good luck.

Answer 11

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