I was fat till puberty but now i'm not and people say i'm hot, so i'm gaining confidence. How should I try to get a girlfriend? I have only tried being a friend first but that didnt work since they then " value me too much as a friend"
2006-08-28 13:48:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
15 and never had a girlfriend; that is pretty normal actually. What is abnormal is all the people who rush their relationships at an early age.
Glad to hear you are gaining confidence. As you gain confidence (as long as you don't become full of yourself) you are likely to do better and have more luck with girls.
Just be yourself, it should come with time.
2006-08-28 13:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by professional student 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there hasn't been enough time between being 15 and when puberty kicked in. If you were overweight prior to the big P, you probably lacked a lot of confidence in a lot of things - girls being one of them. You were probably teased and that did some temporary damage. Let the confidence grow. Fifteen is the worst age for a boy but that, too, shall pass.
You look around and when you see a girl you would like to take out you have to learn something about her. You have to have something in common. Anything at all and you can ask a question, "Someone told me that your people were from France. I'm half French. Who knows, we could be related." Have a conversation and say goodbye. Unless she says, "Want to sit over there and compare notes?" Next time you see her, if she did not suggest that you go to a movie, etc., ask her a question related to the original ice breaker. You can tell if she wants to be a girlfriend or a friend who is a girl. Take either one or move on. Do not look or sound needy. You can sound unsure, scared, your voice can crack, etc. and you will present as sincere and thoughtful and fifteen.
Pal, if you are "hot" or someone's opinion of hot, then it will happen in its time. Stop feeling left out. Eighty percent of your peers dont' have girlfriends. They SAY they do and in their mind they do but, trust me, they don't. Being a man has nothing to do with having a babe hanging on your arm. It is BEING a man and that does not mean dropping your brains down a couple of feet into the privates. Hope this helps.
2006-08-28 21:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to tell u the truth yes u could n are gaining confidence. i say dont try to hard but yeah try a little usually girls flirt with the guys if they are interested so wait but also flirt. been a friend is great that way they now who u really are n well most girls like to know a guy before anything or atleast i do. i think gaining a girls friendship is worth alot more than anything that way yu know also what she like n dont. so people last been friends for some time n when they least expect it they are in love so its all about been calm n well nice with girls, some girls like a bad boy so depending were ur look for a girl try approaching her so good luck.
2006-08-28 20:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, there is always bound to be somebody who will you and won't "value you too much as a friend" Continue to keep that confidence that you have built up and give it time.
2006-08-28 20:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, your only 15... you have yrs ahead of u... relationships often dont work out at such a young age anyway... my advice is just wait... when the timing is right u will meet a girl that will make u the happiest guy alive but until then just hang out and have fun with ur friends... dont worry and Good luck :)
2006-08-28 20:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by becstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your life now and stop thinking about it.
Go out at every opportunity and the moment will come.
Whenever you like someone: Ask... ask... ask... It hurts but know that 9 turn downs for every 1 yes is pretty good odds.
2006-08-28 21:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Brad T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry. Ill be your girlfriend. I wish you felt better.
Hugs and giggles
2006-08-28 20:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find more friends and ask for deeper commitment.
2006-08-28 20:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to a gurl you like and start hangin if you dont think she likes you just ask her!!!! : )
2006-08-28 21:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by thinktinkgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll find someone soon enough
2006-08-28 20:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by WORLD CLASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋