I basicly have no friends anymore and today i have so called four friends and they all go with other folk they know of during the weekends meaning im not worth it,My best friend has moved on and hes got other friends now, what should i do from here? apart from finding new friends?
2006-08-28 13:42:58 · 36 answers · asked by sdk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get a tandem bike, and then when you are out about town, you will have an empty seat. Then, any time you see a potential new bud, you can be like "Well, here I am with an extra bike seat, would you like to go for a ride?" This will definitely entice some buds for you.
2006-08-28 13:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in a similar situation about a year ago. It took me a while to realize that it wasn't my friends' fault, it was my fault for not being a joy to be around all of the time. I was allowing myself to feel down because of my job and then when some people didn't hang out with me as much, I got even more down in the dumps. I finally got motivated and did one of the hardest things that I have ever done- I made new friends from scratch! I stepped out of my comfort zone and made some good buddies. To be honest, I don't even feel a little guilty for getting the old friends out of my life. A real friend will stick with you through anything, and if you can't get one person to just be there for you, start looking elsewhere. I am a much happier person now with friends that enjoy my company.
2006-08-28 13:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by iluvmynotebook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be your own best friend!
for the last 24 years (i'm 24) i have only had one friend to last and actually be a friend (my husband)
when it comes down to it you cant rely on any one but your self! you might find that one person who can be a true friend and you may not but i learned a long time ago that self pitty because of lack of friends gets you NO where. but with even less friends because as your number of friends dwindle you start getting clingy and that in turn drives those away. (been there)
if and when you get to my point of the only friend you have is your spouse and your toddlers you wont think only having only 4 friends was so bad even if they didn't hang with you much
(and a husband and toddlers is sometimes just as bad as no one cause they just dont understand)
2006-08-28 13:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno! do you live in Wisconsin by chance? I'm going thru the same thing.
2 friends moved out of state, one friend is too busy finding a new man, but of course I am her best friend when the man moves on and dumps her- I spend more time with her kids than she does.
I have a few friends here and there but none that I can call up anymore and say on a saturday nite - lets go out!
2006-08-28 13:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Daughtry-luver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really sound bummed out. Maybe this is another part of every ones life that they needed to make changes and move on. Trust me, you will as well. Instead of being so quick to get out there and search for some new friends, maybe you need to evaluate your life and find out what you want and what is important to you. To me, I met most of my friends through school, and most of us kept in touch. Maybe you should also join a group, not necessarily just to find friends but to occupy yourself. What would interest you? Think about it. And in the meantime, I can send you my granddaughter to you, she'll keep you busy : -)) Lots of luck to you!
2006-08-28 13:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone in a similar situation (most of my friends are spread throughout the country, married, and/or have children), friends can come and go....it's life. I have learned to depend on myself, and have realized that it is ok. I do miss having friends around, but it will come again.
2006-08-28 13:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is tough, I too have along the way put all my eggs in one or two friends and then they can move on without me. Try to hang on to at least one of them, to be there for you when you feel alone. Or try to find a way of meeting at least one new friend.. I have tried and have been able to keep one or two of my oldest friends but have lost alot along the way. Good luck!
2006-08-28 13:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think of going out and trying to find friends that have the same intrest as you,
Like maybe skateboarding, or basketball...
Friends that come and go are called fairweather friends.., They can come and go like seasons...
I wish you good luck, and i promise you that one day you'll have the best circle of friends to grow through life with..
2006-08-28 13:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start hanging out with other people. Dont be in hole for along time. Find new people theirs othere people in the world than them. I'll be your friend. I give everybody a chance to be my friend
2006-08-28 13:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be a hard adjustment. Spend some time by yourself and then search for new friends that will want to spend time and be around you. Also, make sure you aren't doing anything that will drive friends away from you.
2006-08-28 13:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋