im good looking, i dress well, im presentable,im smart....but why is it that nobody's courting me?i mean i just understand...i must admit im a little chubby but i can carry it...im also nice (i think)...so why arent any guys courting me?is being 145 lbs, 5'6 a problem?im 2o yrs old... pls...opinions out there!
2006-08-28 13:07:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, who says that by 20 you have to be dating? Sure, back in my day, we were married by that age, but history sort of shows that very few of those marriages work out. You can't rush things like this. I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you. Stop worrying about it. When the time is right, it'll happen. Until then, get out and live a little.
2006-08-28 13:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem is the growing shortage of men. Starting 10 years before you were born, the birth rate for male children began dropping, and is now down 25%, nearly reaching 1 on 1. With the much higher death rate for men, there simply is less of them out there available for women, and those who are out there are beginning to realize there is a shortage and taking advantage of it. Sorry about the bad news, but it gets worse. As the shortage gets worse, something will have to be done to fill openings in blue collar fields mostly worked by men. At some point, we will either have to force men in white collar fields to quit and work in blue collar fields, or begin forcing women to take the jobs, which have a 700 times higher death rate than fields commonly worked by women. In another 10-20 years, pluralistic families may become the norm.
2006-08-28 20:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are just perfect & DONT let anyone tell you any different, its the guys fault NOT yours, they all look at the pencils walking about, what they dont realize is the pencils are looking everywhere else, at a young age boys are told they must like a certain type of girl, BUT when it comes to marriage they DONT want to marry the pencil because if they have a brain cell they realize that they are only after guys with money & a good time, they may think they are nice to have on there arm BUT they cant trust them, they want to marry a girl they love & that will love them & only them, SO till mr right finds you just enjoy yourself & stop worrying,
2006-08-28 20:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You project neediness. I can feel it from here. No guy likes that. Your attitude needs to reflect and project confidence. Once you are okay with yourself, you'll attract others. Really think about this!!! Be relaxed and have a care free demeanor. Act like it's no big deal, no matter what you're doing. No worries, you'll find your man soon enough! But in the meantime, work on you.
2006-08-28 20:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what is your approach to dating? Do you simply go to a bar or club and set yourself up by the bar and look around like you're bored or do you go somewhere and try to meet people, try myspace or eharmony, or get friends to hook you up? Maybe if no one's is asking you out you might need to look at your own behavior before you start to blame all of the faceless men that aren't courting. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but that was my issue. I would just go places and hang out and would never get asked out. I finally took some initiative and am in a relationship that's starting to bloom. Look at what you do and whether or not you are projecting your interest to those who you would like to date. Pick one out and go talk to him.
2006-08-28 20:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by becca007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go out and find the guys. most guys are so afraid of rejection that they won't talk to any girl. go to a singles group at church, or some event geared for singles. or just strike up a convo with the hot guy in line behind you or something. don't give up even if it takes a while. good luck!
2006-08-28 20:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just tryign to find guys in the wrong place. Go out to a club or a sociable place like that, with many different types of guys there.
2006-08-28 20:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are fine to me. I almost weigh 145 lbs, but I'm only 5'3" - I'm quite a few years older than you. You just have to be patient.
2006-08-28 20:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your weight is fine.....are you comfortable talking with guys? Are you in an environment where you are able to meet eligible guys? It is really hard to say...we don't know what you do in your spare time and if you have a job or going to college.
2006-08-28 20:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this day and age people are just afraid of rejection and or are extremely shy.
2006-08-28 20:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by zeno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋