and we get along great..But one thing is the problem, he has given up on his love life, he has been hurt many times in the past and, because of this he has built a wall around his heart..I finally have managed to get thru but it took time for him to truly trust me, How can I get him to "make a leap of faith" so to speak and open his heart to someone special, he has a certain something and if I was not in a relationship with a great man, myself I'd snatch him up, in a blinkof an eye..How can I get him to trust again and start dating...
2006-08-28 13:02:17 · 18 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you want him to open up, you must offer something of yourself
2006-09-04 01:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him time, just be his friend, be there for him and talk a lot. Maintain a good friendship and try not to freak him out by making a move or anything that might suggest being more than friends. When you are ready, tell him you want to be more than friends, let him know that he can trust you and prove to him that he can trust you. Show it and live it and take it very slowly. Just love him and he will see that he can be with you. **** luck. Wishing all the best!!!!!!
2006-09-05 15:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling him positive things about being in love and being with the right woman. He WILL find real love some day. Just keep reassuring him that itll happen. He seems to be picking the wrong girls, have him look into a different kind of girl that he isnt used to, maybe thatll help. He has built this wall around him, but he truly doesnt want to be alone. Just continue to be his friend and he'll come around eventually. Itll hit him right in the face one day, and he'll fall in love again.
2006-09-05 12:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time comes for him ..I'm sure he will open up..but sometimes its hard for people..once you have been hurt..you ask why bother?? its easier to just live your life and not look or think about a relationship.. when the right person comes along ..i am hoping he will be ready to open his heart once again.. Have you ever asked him anything about it?? but i will say don't try to push him..cuz what if it backfires?? then you lose his trust..just be his friend..
2006-08-28 20:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Katfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just hang in there sweetheart, things have a way of workimg out..Show him that there is such a thing as Trust and love..It will take awile believe me... once you work out all the kinks you two will have a wonderfull relationship... Sounds like hes a lucky guy to have someone as careing as you..Good luck sweety...Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-28 20:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Building trust takes time. And by the way, it's not your job to decide that he needs a love life. When someone interesting comes along, he'll rethink that decision. For now, just be his friend.
2006-09-04 07:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Myrna B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your lucky to have a really great friend like this and i think the best way for him to start to get back in his love life is to just be there for him or have him go somewere with you with some of your wicked nice girl friends mb he'll start to want to look for someone again
2006-09-05 19:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him live his own life, you have yours. He can't be that broken or he would not have friends like you. give him time and mind your business. who or if he dates is a personal decision and he has already made it. It may be hard to accept for you , but there it is.
2006-09-05 19:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show him how truly trustworthy you are, he already knows that you will stick by him so once you have his trust just take it step by step and see what happens you never know??
2006-09-05 03:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by j0-j0-- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an awesome friendship!!! stay true to him and he will soon understand to let his guard down. Do not push the issue!!!!
2006-08-28 20:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just introduce him to people he might like and hope that he likes one of them too! But don't try to force him into anything. You can't control his life.
2006-09-03 17:59:45 · answer #11 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋