How to get my boyfriend to repay me?

Question

My Boyfriend has been living with me and only recently started working again. I have been paying his rent for 6 months including utilities and etc. He still lives with me but the subject is hard to approach without hostility. He claims that because he didn't have
a dresser to put his clothes in that he shouldn't have to pay as much rent. He uses all of the space and he has a garage space to himself.

Answer 1

Talk to him first. If that doesn't work then take him to small claims court.

Answer 2

This is so messed up, I hardly know where to begin.

First, why are you living together? He's your boyfriend....so I'm assuming you live together as partners, kind of like husband and wife. In a married couple, when one person is out of work, the other person supports them-- in old traditional values, it was usually the man working, the woman taking care of the house.

Times have changed.... it's easier for women to find jobs in middle-class America, so lots of men are in this boat.

If he was cooking and doing most of the housework while he was unemployed, then I'd say he owes you nothing. He earned his keep.

If you are going to get a roommate.... then keep the boyfriend stuff OUT of it, and each pay half on the rent. If you are going to move in with your boyfriend, you are assuming the role of "spouse" without the paper and commitment. Stupid thing to do for MANY reasons.... but you chose to do it.

Next time YOU are out of work, let's just hope he's willing to do the same for you.

Answer 3

Been there, Done that! I know how hard it it can be, but if he is a man he will see that he needs to support himself. Try kicking him out! Then he will be forced to pay a fair share of someone else's rent.... I see this happen to young girls too many times. It doesn't matter if u love him. Tell him to grow up and support himself. GD! All these men walk around expecting their girlfriends to be their mothers.....tell him it is nothing personal- just business. Find a better roommate. Unless he is a charity case.....?

Answer 4

Tell him to come off the bucks or get the hell out. Believe me if he can't pay up rent and disrespects you by making you carry his load too, leave him alone he isn't a real man! A real man would not live off of a woman! Get rid of him, it willbe the best thing for you. There are real men out there that will be happy to show you what a woman should be treated like!

Answer 5

Your b/f sounds akin to the evil avatar who answered,they both appear to be a couple of plonkers-your b/f for treating you the way he does,and the "ohh soo evil one" for being another racist bigot-ah well,such is life..where would we be without these morons anyway:-/As per your question,you live together so why cant you work together..your petty squabbles are not exactly conducive for a life of harmony together are they-it doesn't seem to me to be a good pairing really to be honest,you seem to nag a lot about monetary things and he just seems to be getting away with what he can..seems like you are both going through the motions..have a chat and see where this is heading,maybe you are better off by your self:-/

Answer 6

That will be tricky, you could hold out say that u are short on cash and you need his help with paying your half of the rent..But make sure not to sign or agree to any commitment to pay him back. Or make him take you out a bunch and spend a whole Lotta money on you. It doesn't sound like you want to break up with him, and suing him would definitely break up the relationship and you wouldn't win because there was no agreement on him paying you back. So you gotta out smart him. There are cleaver little ways that you can get him to pay up with out him even knowing it. My husband try-ed to pull the same thing with me when we were dating. I made him buy everything . Luckily us girls are much smarter then them boys ... Good luck

Answer 7

BOYFRIEND thats your answer if he wasnt your b/f then you could evict him & get a room-mate who WOULD pay their way, the thing is YOU have kept him for so long & without taking any money off him that HE now thinks that YOU should just keep on paying everything & leave him with his own money, SO bring up the question about paying halfs & if he dosent agree then tell him, to move out & go back to his mam, & you will get a lodger to pay his half,

Answer 8

First, make sure he pays his rent NOW. Split it down the middle. Second, tell him you only have half of the rent, and to stay there you need his half. Third, add up what he owes you, (the six months rent) and tell him to pay you $100 dollars a month.

Now, to get him to pay it; A gentle voice calms the wrath. Tell him very none chalantely, like it's no big deal. If he gets defensive, then sternly say, "You know I can't we can't make it without your half!" If he brings up arguments like his stupid dresser, say, "I can't believe you're trying to get out of paying." Then call up your dad, or your brother or someone to confirm his outlandish actions. Say things like, "This is how you treat me after i cover you for six months!" Everytime he tries, just say, I can't believe you're doing this!!! Be unrelenting. "You need to find somewhere else to live cause you don't appreciate me." And if he gets hostile and yells even more, then you say, shaking your head, " i just can't believe this after all i've done". If he gets violent, call the cops. serious. don't let people walk all over you...

Answer 9

this is what happens when you play house. you should have had him sign some sort of agreement when he moved in. He should pay half the rent no matter what. this relationship sounds like it could be over any day and you will have to take him to court to get any money out of him. be wise next time and never let any male live off of you.

Answer 10

sagertaz,you really need to put your foot down and stop worrying about the outcome!believe it or not their are some guys in this world that see a weakness in their girlfriends and use it to their advantage!you might try going to his friends for advice and you might learn something you didnt know about him?,then again you might try telling his mom or dad whats up and maybe they can talk to him for you!but one thing is for sure!you are being used and the only person that can do anything about it is you!put him on the spot!tell him its pay your half of the bills or get out and try living on your own and maybe you will see how good you really have it!GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK!p.s. if that dont work get a guy that really cares for you and wont take advantage of you because nobody deserves that!

Answer 11

Just because he doesnt have a dresser doesnt mean anything. He still had a roof over his head and still has to pay rent. Unless he wants to live on the street he better start paying up.