three years before we married, my husband cheated on me I forgave him we had already been together for two years when this happened. And we had decided we will have a threesome before we got married. well after he cheated I couldn't do it now that we are married he's bringing it up again I want to do it but I dont feel he deserves it what do you think?
2006-08-28 12:47:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to be talking to your husband about this, and not on Yahoo! Answers.
None of us can tell you what to do. You need to be honest and open with your husband, and tell him that you haven't been able to forget what he did to you.
This isn't about the threesome. This is about him cheating on you and the effect it has had and left on you. You're worried he's gonna cheat with the other woman. Have you gone for counselling? Because until the 2 of you deal with it, it's not gonna disappear all by itself.
Alternatively, turn the tables on him and tell him you want a threesome with another man. That'll shut him up. ;-)
2006-08-28 13:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never forgive someone who cheats on you, because they will keep doing it. If you want a threesome, do it without him. Try a three girl version - you might find it more sensual and satisfying, rather than seeing him screwing someone else infront of you. Sorry about the language, but he already cheated on you, and after all that do you really want to stay with him and f*** eachother in the presence of another person? Leave him.
2006-08-28 20:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Do you want to do it? Taking the whole cheating thing out of the equation, would you do it? Is it something you want to experience? That is the question you have to answer. The past has very little to nothing to do with it if you really have forgiven him.
The rest of your question ("I want to do it but I dont feel he deserves it") eludes to the fact you have not really forgiven him and that you keep using it against him. If you are going to forgive, you have to forgive 100% and never bring it up again. If you can't, you haven't forgiven him, you're just saying you have. Words are empty, actions have substance.
2006-08-30 16:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything you dont feel comforable doing. Not only that if you guys are in the middle of a threesome how do you know how you are going to feel seeing another woman doing your man?? With threesomes there is a lot to consider, but follow your heart, it never lies.
2006-08-28 19:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't feel he deserves it, then you aren't completely bought on the whole thing anyways. If you are having any sort of doubts, then don't do it. And considering the fact that he has cheated before would only be bringing trouble into your relationship.
2006-08-28 20:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've described I would definitely opine that neither of you have the maturity, patience, tolerance, know-how, nor the possibility of sustaining such a relationship. It does, however sound like you would be perfect candidates to appear on the 'Jerry Springer Show'. Keep your relationship as simple as you sound in order to avoid bruises, black eyes and possibly worse!
2006-08-28 19:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya see, this is why I think marriage should be completely done away with. You people have no business calling yourselves a married couple. If you wanna have multiple sex partners, go do that but don't give me this crap about you having any control over his pen!s because you're his wife.
2006-08-28 19:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks its the worst mistake you can do, bring some one into your marriage. I have seen 2 marriages go down the drain for that. I was the other woman brought into the bedroom, after a few times of this 3somes they file for divorce... cause my friend tought her husband enjoyed me more. Next thing you know it, he called her by my name while having sex. Dont do it. But again thats just my opp.
2006-08-28 19:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by little hott @$$ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Screw him! If you don't want to do it, then don't do it. Just explain to him that after he cheated on you, you don't feel comfortable allowing him to sleep with someone else.
That is nasty. Your husband sounds like a pig. Seems like he is looking for a way to cheat without you getting mad.
2006-08-28 19:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you invite a third person into your marriage bed be ready to lose your mate to whomever you invited in. You run the risk of them developing strong feelings for each other and you will be left out in the cold.
2006-08-28 20:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋