What are the most common root causes for a woman's low self-esteem or insecurity in her relationships?

Question

So many women seem to feel insecure in their relationships or don't feel good enough to keep her significant other's interest. Does it go back to her childhood? If so, is it usually because of her family or peers or both?

Answer 1

I can't answer for all women, just in my case and those who I know have this problem. Low self-esteem goes further back than just guys rejecting you, or having your heart broken, It has to do with something from your childhood, how the kids treated you in school, how your parents viewed you and treated you, brothers and sisters etc, it's all about being accepted, feeling secure. If you have never had that sense of security with friends and family, it's hard to imagine you will ever have it with a man. Although we certainly want to feel it, deep down inside we wonder when is this person going to let me down?
I hope that helped you!
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Answer 2

You know what I wonder the same thing. Yes and No. It's sad that we feel that we have to rely on another person to encourage our self-esteem or insecurities, In return we don't need somebody else to encourage an already existing feeling. I'm in an a very verbally abusive relationship, which I know and am working on getting out of. This is a decision that I have realized that there is nothing I can do or say or master to have things change. Just get out of it. I can hardly wait. The way I look at it is, we all have enough challenges in our lives daily, but why invite more. People can be so consumed within their own world, that I choose not to live in it.

Answer 3

either not a good up bringing or an absent parent. For women it tends to be nothing was right enought for mom, or there wasnt a dad. A dad usually helps gives young girls self estem and shoukd be there rock, and feel security. When you come from a broken home, not all the time but most its hard to ever really feel security or self estem.

Answer 4

I know, it is a huge problem. I agree with everyone regarding childhood. I think society reinforces it. Not having unconditional love as a child - feeling shamed, rejected. Then when these kid's grow up, they are still carrying around the things they were told as children- and girls are taught to please - whichis why they feel it is their responsibility to be 'good enough' to please their partner. vicious cycle. Good thing there is a lot of info out there to help people overcome the insecurities, and prevent it for the next generation of girls!

Answer 5

I think alot of it has to do with the family. The people you are around most when growing up is your family, mostly your mother. The way they have felt really affects you. Its like they pass it on to you but , your not them and you can overcome feeling this way. Its hard because you feel trapped like you did something wrong to be feeling this way about yourself. Life goes on and just think everybody has some insecurity.

Answer 6

There are the 2 common variables (1) childhood trauma and (2)social stigma dealing with appearances. These can be circumvented by building confidence and realizing we all are beautiful.

Answer 7

An answer of mine from another question: 'As long as you know the difference between feeling an emotion and loyalty, no problem. We know the rule for persistence over the temporary; it is reputation, ego ideal, morality. ' In other words, everything is in respect to time and lastingness, and that is good for morality, for our moral code, but it is not realistic for anything else. Certainly there is an error in priority in someone there. Make sure it is not you.

Answer 8

various situations I see those with a low self-well worth determining on those that dominate them, the two mentally, bodily, or emotionally. so a techniques as their seems, what I easily have seen is the guy with decrease self-well worth isn't as eye-catching as their significant different, using fact they do no longer experience eye-catching, and it exhibits on the exterior.

Answer 9

Mine came from my mom. She was extremely insecure/always on a diet/couldn't take a compliment. I guess I learned it from her. I am different though because I am working to change it. That's the wonderful thing about your mind, is you have the ability to change the way you think.

Answer 10

It's a case of both.. we all know that, for the longest time, women were downgraded to second-class citizenship... it's going to take a long time for some women to overcome that.. I keep praying that they will..