why do i feel so alone?

Question

i feel like noone understands me. i cant even talk to my dad and stepmom. it all started happening after i moved away from my mom. i moved because she made alot of mistakes in her life, like drugs and alcohol and it effected me and my sis in the long run. i feel like my parents dont understand how i feel about this.why?

Answer 1

Hey there sweetie......
I know what you mean Having been in that situation myself all through my childhood way up to my teenage years. My parents never cared if i was dead or alive and chose to send me to live with abusive relatives when i was little. I spend my childhood very unhappily amongst happier smiling children, so it's completely natural that i was afflicted with a sense of acute isolation. That took a long time before it fades and i begin to feel warmer towards other people,.... when i realized that all humans are equally stupid in the end, and the lack of a family doesn't nessecarily means a hellish future for me.
It's very comforting thought, that i can self determine my path and choices in life....and so can you.
My parents were divorced and they screwed up real bad, even to this day us children can't fix it. Somethings will never change sweetheart.......because it's outside our power to change them without thier own willingness and openness .......

Maybe you can't talk to them becoz they are in so much confusion that they can't listen anymore.
Your mother is in a lot of pain right now which drives her into such self destructive behaviour. Just love her selflessly anyway and let her know that you and your sister would like to see some positive changes in her lifestyle. I'm sure you can melt her heart with gentle words or actions. Divorce is always very painful for everybody, especially the children......but give it time and the hurt will eventually subside....and things can get better for you and ypur family

Good Luck and Lots of Love to you.

Answer 2

Because they really dont. If they have never been in your shoes they can never fully understand how u may feel. But in order to keep up , try talking to friends. Or maybe just realize that it is time to think about the future and not dwell on the past. Like start thinking about a super cute boy at school, or get a job to make lots of cash so you can start getting new things. I know it is VERY hard to let go of the past, but as time flows, it can be done. Try to start a new life, and make the best of it. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!

Answer 3

Sweety, it's not your fault that this happened. Booze and drugs can make people do and say things they don't mean to and unfortunately it has a way of hurting other people in their lives. Most likely she knows what she's doing and has done is affecting loved ones around her. She's feeling guilty about it and doesn't want people to tell her because she already knows. She's trying to pretend that her problem is not a problem and hoping that people won't see it as a problem. She's in denial right now and as soon as she understands that, she'll realize what it's doing to you and how it's affecting you. Hopefully one day she will come to the realization of what's going on and decide to get help. If she gets the help she needs it will inturn make things better for her and everyone around her. Time eventually heals everything. Don't give up on her. She needs you even though she doesn't know it.

Answer 4

Joe:

Your icon says your female, but your name is male. I percieve you maybe a young teenager. Not sure your age. When you are depressed, by reading between the lines, you seem to be a caring soul and that is a good thing. Caring is a thing rather lost in this hi-tech world we live in, I think you are a seeker and that is good. Many teens your age go through changes and seek knowledge from elders, you worry about things and wonder how it will shape your life. As time goes by you will mature and gain much wisdom and knowledge. Unfortunately, many of our younger generation seeks no knowledge and wisdom from others, this is how we learn. It is good you seek out answers, to bad others don't. I think what is best for you is to study the problem and gain the experiance from answers others give you. Then I suggest you seek a councillor or one who is experianced in this area. For what you learn today, will definately help you tommorow. It is unfortunate that your experiances have been ill. This is a time for you to grow, mature, seek, and find your interest. I hope that you can find he right path and journey well into your life ahead...For you are young and so much to experiance. You have learned one hard lesson already and are rebounding and learning-Life is full of learning and that is the way of life. Perhaps some day you will master it, in several ways-Perhaps you will be come a great person one day, JUST LEARN FROM YOUR EXAMPLES AND DO NOT BE BASHFUL ABOUT ASKING HELP.... I hope someday we meet again and see how well you have learned these many things..I hope I have helped you in this question you have asked-Good Luck and Hope everything works out for you....

Answer 5

This must be a hard time for you. Your parents are so wrapped up it their lives that they forgot to think about how all of this is affecting you.

I think that you should approach your dad. In you most intelligent voice, ask him for a moment of his time where you two can just sit and talk without your step-mom. Have him take you out to lunch or dinner or something. When you get him alone. Let him know how you have been feeling. He's a guy so he probably isn't really in-tune with what is going on in the head of a female. I'm sure he cares about you. Just talk to him and you can change your relationship with him.

Good luck.

Answer 6

i think if you cant talk to someone in your family then you should go see a counselor, they will not judge you,,they will only listen. keep a close circle of friends or just chat online to people you feel comfortable with. i dont know how old you are but i think you should learn from your parents mistakes and that should you make you a better person when you are older and have kids,,not to do what they have done to you. it should make you a stronger person,,,,if you need a friend michelledd382000@yahoo

Answer 7

You are very sensitive..I wish your mom and dad could understand this situation. When parents are seprated for any reason it's impacted their negative effects on children. What I suggest you marry a man who is honest and promise to live with you for the whole life so you will feel strong enough to enjoy the life.

Answer 8

maybe they can't "hear" you because of emotions in the way when you try to talk with them.

try to get counseling- ask your dad if he's got insurance for it. Otherwise contact your county mental health department and explain what you're going through.

having someone listen, understand and remain objective is a great comfort and gives you a chance to work out your feelings and pain. It's worth doing- you deserve to feel better.

Answer 9

I think you need to tell your father and step-mother that you feel like you are all alone. Tell them about your feelings and if you don't want to talk to them about it ask them to help you find a councilor who you can talk to. Also see if you all can't find some fun activities to do together on a regular basis so you can bond as a family. You should also try to get involved with your peers either through sports, school activities, volunteer positions, a part time job. You need a support network of people who care, you need to feel you belong and you need to talk about your feelings.

Answer 10

more than likely you don't give them a chance. You are to busy feeling sorry for your self and saying nobody understands me. Well I hate to burst your little bubble but I know many who have gone through what you are going through and some have even gone through things much worse. Try talking to people before blowing them off. If people around you don't understand then stop and explain it to them. We can not read your mind or your feelings you must describe them or at least tell us about them. If at first you don't succeed then try again.